georgeob1 wrote:I believe we are all scarred and shaped by life, and these things are but one of a wide variety of such things, many far more difficult. Some are apparently destroyed by it: others survive and, depending on how they internalize it, stronger as a result. However everything, and every adaptation, has its price.
Friederich II of Prussia, known as the Great, had a father who was, for practical purposes, insane. Friederich Wilhelm lived a life of parsimony which made him the object of ridicule by other European monarchs. He was pathological in his obsessions, and unbelievably cruel. He lived and dressed austerely, and carried a cane, with which he frequently beat public officials until he could raise the cane no longer if he were dissatisfied with their performance. He reformed Prussia, long referred to as an army with its own state, to be the most efficient state in Europe, but he did so by literally terrorizing his officials and his own family.
When "Fritz" was six years old, he was thrown from a horse--his father beat him for it, publicly. His father discovered him wearing a pair of gloves in cold weather, and he was publicly beaten for it. He took an extra helping of potatoes at dinner one day, and his father began beating him until the servants left in terror, his brothers and sisters fled screaming and weeping from the room and his mother finally ended the beating by laying her own body over the boy's bleeding back.
"Fritz" responded by retreating further and further into himself. He despised all things German, would not write in the language unless duty bad him to communicate with someone who spoke no French, and then his German was badly written, spelled and ungrammatical. He wrote all of his many books in French, and corresponded with Voltaire on prose and poetry. He became quite musical, and in later life performed in chamber orchestras and composed his own works. Until he was 18, he went as far as the severe laws of his father would allow to avoid participation in the military rituals of which his father was so fond. When he publicly ridiculed his father's obsession with his "Potsdam Giants," a regiment of freakishly tall soldiers, he was again given the cane, in public. He finally "snapped," and attempted to flee Prussia with his close friend, Hans von Katte. Aprehended, they were returned and imprisoned at Küstrin. Friederich could have been legally executed for his "desertion," as he and von Katte were serving Prussian officers. Von Katte was condemned, and publicly beheaded. In Friederich's own phrase, he was frogmarched to a window and made to watch the execution, one soldier holding his head so he could not turn it away.
He became a changed man. He did all that he could to please his father. He made his own regiment the best drilled regiment in the army. Finally released from imprisonment, he remained at Küstrin to fulfill his duties to his regiment. He continued to love the French language, poetry and prose, and to play and compose music, but he strove his uttermost to be the man his father wanted. He never publicly commented on his father or his behavior. Although he married, he and his wife were quickly estranged, and after less than two years, he moved out and they never lived together again. He built a magnificent palace at Potsdam,
Sans Souci ("Without a Care") and wrote passable French prose, and beautiful, if often somewhat pedestrian, music.
And he became the warrior King his father never was. He endured all hardships of the campaign that his troops endured--they grew to love him, and called him
der Alter Fritz, addressing him as such to his face. He offered the
Pour le mérite and a promotion to one captain who had served the throne, father and son, for 32 years, and the captain sent the decoration back, saying he could not afford to support his family and pay for the traditional dinner he would have to give his fellow officers; Friederich sent it back, with one hundred gold coins and a note apologizing for having forgotten the "debt" and not repaid it sooner. Although perhaps apochryphal, the story is repeated that he rode up to one laggard regiment in the heat of battle and the storm of musket balls and began belaboring the grenadiers on the back with the flat of his sword, demanding to know if they wanted to live forever.
He only lost his confidence once. In the aftermath of the disasterous battle with the Russians at Kunersdorf, with the screams of his wounded being mutilated and murdered in the dark by the Cossacks echoing in his mind, he wrote to his brother to say that he must give up the command of the armies. Prince Henry, who carped and complained, and so often resentfully said aloud in public that he should be the supreme commander, rose to the occassion (he had, after all, the same cruel, mad father) and told Friederich that the army and the nation would be lost without him. Friederich once more screwed his courage to the sticking point, and persevered, and in what was as close to a miracle for which history offers an example, survived the Seven Years War with his throne and nation intact.
Families are strange, often cruel, sometimes haunted bands of people--many of the members of which live lives of "quiet desparation." The high-born are no more immune from this than the low-born. The wonderful, tragic and inspiring stories you all have offered here demonstrate the variety of the human condition, and the strength of human character. I thank you all.