How do I not let an age gap bother me?

There's something else that is bothering me about the age gap though.  Because she is 21, she keeps talking about her life around that time, where as women my age or older, hardly ever talk about that point in their lives.  When I hear people talk about that point in their lives, I become very jealous and insecure.

I am autistic and because of that, I didn't have a life until my mid-20s and I stayed in my parents house and didn't do anything at all.  So I feel I never had a life before then, and have hardly any experience as a result, so when she talks about her life then, I become very jealous.

Women my age or older, do not talk about that point of their lives hardly, so I don't have to hear it, whenever I date someone my age or older.
So when she talks about It, I feel jealousy and insecurity.  For example she is 21 and has already had four relationships.  I am 36 and have only had 4.  So

I feel intimidated that she has had more experience than me.  Women my age or older probably have too, but they don't talk about it like she does, because of her age.

If that makes sense?

You realize that the "little kitten" stuff is a joke at Punkey's awkward metaphor.

The questio I keep asking is Do you want this relationship with this woman? If find her sexually attractive, than nothing else matters.

I could tell you that I find 21 year old women sexy. I could provide evidence that many men find 21 year olds attractive. That has absolutely nothing to do with your situation.

Di you want to be with her? That is the only question that matters

I didnt know you have autism. That doesnt change anything in my opinion. It does seem you have some insecurity to work through.

Do you have a therapist? A relationship is a bad place to work through insecurities. That isn't what romantic relationships are for.

Working with a therapist would probably be a good thing, you can work with the therapist on these feelings and that will allow you to better enjoy a romantic relationship.

I don't have a therapist right now. Oh yes I don't mean to use the relationship to work through insecurities. The insecurites, just hit me by surprise, as the relationship started unfolding I mean.

And I find her physically attractive, but maybe not as sexually yet, but I think that will come once I get more comfortable with the insecurity I think.

"Women my age or older, do not talk about that point of their lives hardly, so I don't have to hear it, whenever I date someone my age or older.
So when she talks about It, I feel jealousy and insecurity. For example she is 21 and has already had four relationships. I am 36 and have only had 4. So
I feel intimidated that she has had more experience than me."

This young woman is only a few years out of high school and maybe hasn't finished college. Her most vivid memories are of the things and activities younger people share at this time in their life. I'm concerned that you worry how this age difference is perceived by others but more so that you feel jealousy and insecurity when she talks about her recent past. This may not wind up being a good relationship for you unless you can get past those obstacles.

Just also be aware that this young woman may occasionally feel out of her depth when she meets your co-workers, friends and relatives. You obviously have control over your conversations and behaviors but people tend to remark on age differences (her side and your side) you need to figure out how you and she are going to respond. Just try to remember that you were a teenager before she was born so your teen and childhood memories are going to be totally foreign to her and hers totally foreign to you. It's not fair for either of you to resent each others experiences just because they happened at different times.

That's true. How do other guys get over such insecurities like that or what do they do to approach it differently?

Are you 17 or 37? Or something else?

Several members have attempted to answer your question. You keep returning to what seems to be the same question. It’s unclear just what you are asking or seeking. Perhaps a therapist might help you in the best way?

Sorry I am 37.

Why are your parents trying to take control of your money, and are you still planning on making a movie?

Yeah, like kindness, intelligence, sense of humour, some conversation, interests in common, good hygiene... even if you just want a f""k-buddy, you still need something else besides a body. Otherwise, get a blow up doll or a prostitute.

Don't you agree that intelligence and a sense of humor are sexually attractive?

I think you are trying to pick a fight for no reason.

"Don't you agree that intelligence and a sense of humor are sexually attractive?"

That is not what you implied. And I don't know that I'd characterize those qualities as "sexually" attractive. Attractive yes, but "sexually", not to me.

And no, I'm not trying to pick a fight. There's no point since you run off to another thread or insult/condescend to whom you're speaking when you're losing.

Oh my Little Kitten, I still don't see you as an adversary. This little game you think we are playing is sweet...

I will nevwr lose as long as you keep playing with me.

What's the point again?

you're a condescending twit

Yes! And I am an idiot, a misoginist, a racist, a conservative, a liar, a troll and a fascist. No one should ever take me seriously.

Are you happy now my Little Kitten?

To be honest, I don't even know if you have a point to make (other than your little personal spat with me). If you are just going to follow me from thread to thread to insult me, people are going to get bored awfully quickly... and you aren't even the first.

Seriously, if you are going to follow me from thread to thread... at least have a point to make other than that I am a condescending twit. Everyone here already knows that.

Follow you from thread to thread? You flatter yourself. It's impossible not to since you are 'advising' everyone on everything, including women, one of which you are not. Which is what makes it laughable.

Haha It took you exactly 3 minutes to follow me to this thread

https://able2know.org/topic/559311-1#post-7139955

Look at the timestamp. You followed me to this thread, to make a childish insult, exactly 3 minutes after I created it.

I think I have really upset you to the point of obsession, my Little Kitten.

Wonder if harmonica has wibbled off somewhere while Max diverts yet another thread?

Love that - 'wibbled off'