How do I not let an age gap bother me?

maxdancona wrote:

I think Punkey has a political objection to older men with younger women.

Why do you make this assertion?

maxdancona wrote:

You shouldn't expect them to make sense.

Who to make sense? Women? Older women? Anybody but a mansplainer?

maxdancona wrote:

Older men with younger women is the norm in many cultures, and it makes biological sense.

That's true enough. A lot of those are and were arranged marriages where the young lady doesn't and didn't have a say.

maxdancona wrote:

With the advent of feminism, they are trying to make this taboo for ideological reasons.

What? LMAO. Please explain - or should I say 'mansplain' - this to me.

None of this should apply to your situation. You should do what makes you (and her) happy. If the relationship is good, forget the haters. Just go with what works.

Do I have to mansplain to you what 'mansplaining' means? (because you seem to be missing something on the concept).

You are pulling an Oralloy, you have a irrelevant questions that I probably did not answering because they aren't relevant to the point.

This is what you do. You insult people instead of addressing their issues or questions. That's the act of a coward.

But fine.... this is silly, but I will answer all of your questions.

"silly" again - how pejorative.

- this hogwash is my opinion based on my experience. Not evidence-based.

- society is putting new restrictions on sexual expression, expressing sexual desire is now likely to be considered harrassment. Even telling a woman to smile is now a problem.
Still not evidence-based.

- you can google "sexual recession" for yourself. This is well known. ???

- yes there are polls. You can google them yourself (actually I was nice enough to do googling for you).

- because Punkey jumped down the OPs throat for no reason except he was clearly disparaging this relationship based on the age difference. That's not how it seemed to me. He wasn't 'disparaging' anything - he was insecure because of the age difference and was seeking support. That is not the definition of 'disparage'.

Did I get them all? I tried to go through the past couple days of your posts and answer any question addressed to me. You can tell me if this exercise was useful in anyway to you. I think you are being silly, and I suspect that any of these answers will likely put you into an even more off-topic tangent. But there you go.

And there YOU go, being a 19th century male who patronizes women.

In all seriousness Mame, I don't like the way you hide behind your gender.

What the hell does that even mean???

]In my opinion you are all pushing an ideological narrative that goes far beyond anything that can be supported by facts.

And what the hell does that even mean???

I would say yes I feel much more comfortable when it's just the two of us compared to other people around, but is that good?

Well another thing is, there is that part of me that is thinking I am technically old enough to be her dad, but I am not sure if that is based on what other people think, or if there is a part of me that has those feelings as well. Should I not think like that?