Tue 9 Jul, 2019 05:22 pm
I have been dating a widower for 2 1/2 years. We started dating 6 months after his wife passed away. Ive been friends with this man for 40 + years. We decided to just have dinner and maybe golf as friends. After a couple of those dates things took a turn. He told me up front that he didn't want to remarry . He wasn't ready for anything serious. Within 6 most we were spending a lot of time together, mostly at his house because he had pets. Things were pretty good between us and have been. He is a wonderful man and is very considerate and kind to me. He has grown children that weren't very enthused about us , but I feel they are getting better with things. I have fallen in love with him in the 1st year of dating. I haven't said it to him, Ive been waiting to hear it from him. He did tell me 6 months back that he liked me a lot and hoped I would stay with him. That really hurt my feelings. I did stay because he treats me like he loves me but can't or won't say it. Three months ago he moved into my place because he was having surgery and I was going to help him after. He also wanted to remodel a bathroom at his home. Things have been good, I love having him with me and told him I wanted him to stay. He has decided to go back to his home this week. He said its because he is starting 2nd shift and doesn't want to wake me when he gets home late. Im really starting to feel as though he is not able to commit to me in anyway and I think maybe its time to break it off, as much as it will hurt me to do it. I feel like maybe he is still grieving or he just wants a playmate. I unfortunately want more at this point. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
He told me up front that he didn't want to remarry . He wasn't ready for anything serious.
I'm not sure how you missed what you wrote here.
Doesn't seem like he's been anything but upfront and honest from the start.