Being locked in fear is no way to live.
And your kids, while they are a part of your future (and anyone you get into a relationship with should know you have kids), they are not a part of your sexuality.
The way you meet women is pretty similar to the way you meet men. You're pleasant and friendly and you go to where there are women. Fortunately, female-type people are everywhere.
So be sunshiney, positive, and kind to everyone you meet.
- Good morning
- That's a pretty dress. Where did you get it?
- Your puppy is so cute!
- Oh boy my kids were just like that when they were your child's age
- Is the bus always this late?
- Wow, do you think this rain will ever let up?
There are your scripts. And don't just talk to women you find attractive. Talk to everyone and anyone. Be a part of making your neighborhood a more pleasant place to be.
Because either you will meet someone, or they will know someone, and they'll say, "That heather109, she is just the nicest lady you would ever want to meet. I know she likes women and she's single. Why don't you go over and introduce yourself?"