Thank you Chai, this is a great topic that I was going to bring up myself.
There should be a middle ground on feminism, between "feminists are spawn of the devil", and "feminism is unquestionable truth". In today's fractious society, this middle ground is very difficult to inhabit.
There is quite a bit about feminism with which I agree. I support the movement to win equal pay. I am actively trying to help bring more women into engineering. I am raising a daughter who is intelligent, curious, confident and assertive... all qualities that I respect and encourage.
There are some things about current feminism with which I either disagree, or I believe is extreme. The discussion about free speech, and due process are important. When I disagree with feminists on the topics, it is because I don't share their opinion, not because I hate women.
This all or nothing ideology, where you either accept everything or you are an enemy of all women is the problem. It leads to a large group of ideologically pure people who think the same. They have lost the ability to question their own beliefs, or to accept when other people question. Our country is currently dividing itself into two opposing ideological camps with no ability to understand anything outside of each carefully constructed narrative.
I don't see feminists as the spawn of the devil, nor do I see them as infallible or above reproach. I see them as human beings.