what to do when you feel lonely ?

ah, i am sorry that you feel such way sometimes. but such feelings lets you appreciate the companies of others when there are.

here are somethings i try NOT to do when feeling lonely, eventhough it is so tempting:
(i try not to do these, not because it is unproductive or bad, but it just makes me feel much more miserable afterwards for some reason)

-chatting
-playing video games
-sleep
-watch movies
-over-eat
-over-smoke
-over-*cough* haha, they said all men do it!
-listen to music
-daydream

here are somethings i try to do:

-going out to random places for no purpose and look for things to do
-if thats not possible, i talk on the phone w/ friends
-draw or paint
-read a book whild drinking coffee or tea outside
-clean up my room
-do anything productive
-go crazy with hygene.. lol.. (take long shower, over-brush my teeth, scrub scrub, etc... untill my body feels like a newborn's body. haha)

before, i used to take either vicodine or niquil and just passout because i hated the feeling. then i started drinking when i felt lonely. but then i stopped, now it is better. Doing active/productive things.. eventhough they are not VERY active or productive, will get rid of loneliness and prevent it also for a while.

i think over-eating and chatting probably was the worst thing i did when feeling lonely, and the best was gettying crazy clean then going to library to read books.

i think it is not good to look for entertainment, but to look for anything new is. Any gain of knowledge but not just by reading from magazine at home, but going outside and seeing would be a good fun and educational.

i once was feeling very so lonely and i wanted to take my mind off, but could not get out of the house... so i went out to the backyard and looked at all different plants. then it lead to looking for bugs. i felt like i was 12 years old again. but i was definately feeling much better.

Not original, but Paul Simon wrote this:

When you're weary, feeling small,
When tears are in your eyes, I will dry them all;
I'm on your side. when times get rough
And friends just can't be found,
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down.
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down.

When you're down and out,
When you're on the street,
When evening falls so hard
I will comfort you.
I'll take your part.
When darkness comes
And pains is all around,
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down.
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down.

Sail on silvergirl,
Sail on by.
Your time has come to shine.
All your dreams are on their way.
See how they shine.
If you need a friend
I'm sailing right behind.
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind.
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind.


Stephen Stills wrote this:

It's getting to the point
Where I'm no fun anymore
I am sorry
Sometimes it hurts so badly
I must cry out loud
I am lonely
I am yours, you are mine
You are what you are
And you make it hard -
Remember what we've said and done and felt
about each other
Oh babe, have mercy
Don't let the past remind us of what we are not now
I am not dreaming.
I am yours, you are mine
You are what you are
And you make it hard-
Tearing yourself away from me now
You are free and I am crying
This does not mean I don't love you
I do, that's forever, yes and for always
I am yours, you are mine
You are what you are
And you make it hard-
Something inside is telling me that
I've got your secret. Are you still listening?
Fear is the lock, and laughter the key to your heart
And I love you.
I am yours, you are mine, you are what you are
And you make it hard-
And you make it hard-
Friday evening, Sunday in the afternoon
What have you got to lose?
Tuesday mornin', please be gone I'm tired of you.
What have you got to lose?
Can I tell it like it is? Help me I'm sufferin'
Listen to me baby-Help me I'm dyin'
It's my heart that's a sufferin', it's a dyin'
That's what I have to lose
I've got an answer
I'm going to fly away
What have I got to lose?
Will you come see me
Thursdays and Saturdays?
What have you got to lose?
Chestnut brown canary
Ruby throated sparrow
Sing a song don't be long
Thrill me to the marrow
Voices of the angels ring around the moonlight
Asking me, said she so free
How can you catch the sparrow?
Lacy, lilting, lady, losing love, lamenting
Change my life, make it right
Be my lady.
Doo doo doo doo doo, doo doo doo doo doo doo


and Bill Withers sang this:

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
Till I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Internet porn. Though I personally never look at it.

I come on A2K and hit on women I could never possibly hope to have in real life. Works wonders.

Oh, wait, I see you're not really looking for solutions, just descriptive ways to express your feelings...nemmind.

Post your shoe song, Kicky. That's original. Not sure if it's on point, though. Okay ... nemmind.

Quote:
On pointe? Is it about ballet shoes?

Not sure. I know they were "Grampa's shoes," but I guess they could be. Maybe Kicky can clarify ........

Ah, navigator. I wish I had a formula for you. Sometimes I have been lonely in a crowd.

I think the best thing to do is to write, whether it be online or at home. For you, my friend:

When you feel the soul of sinking,
Time to do creative thinking.

Touch the inner most of you,
Paint your face with lunar blue,
Feel the rainbow's promise true.

Paint a poem or feign a word,
Listen to a mockingbird,
Then I promise, you will be
A part of your Arabian sea.

ah i am sorry i did not help the initial poster. i tried to help but i was wrong.

and for the other guys... well i hope someone makes humor when you feel very bad.

welcome to a2k

Another what th!

For Me Being Lonely was a State of Mind. I found I could be lonely by myself or in a crowd, so it was not about people, it was about me. It was helpful to change my outlook. So what is lonely, is it not just self-pity for which we are looking for someone else to rescue us from.

Maybe it is homesickness. Let home be where you are.

Maybe it is Fear. Fear is interest paid on unearned Worry.

Just try and find things you enjoy (Really enjoy) and do them, if you can't think of any, learn something new. This too shall pass. :wink:

Thanks everybody, thanks bubbleme :wink: . I had this feeling, though as I said I have many people around here and there.It just the moment when you feel this strange feeling of being lonely or there is something missing.

I appreciate everybody's way.I have a friend here who hush his anger by eating !! .I know that people have different and really strange ideas to control themselves, and it works.

Ofcourse I feel great now , it just a passing moment that make me curious to find out about others.

Hi letty, I like what you wrote

Well, I'm a family man though I'm not married yet.But, I like the way I live now, and don't think about later.That wasn't the issue, for me feeling down was with no reason, I guess.It's just another feeling.

That's what I want, your writing when you feel down.

A Blue Solution
An incongruity of emotions
Sitting on top of the world
With no one to share the joy.

When the day promises reward
And the celebration promises solitude
When the mirror sees only youth
But the youth sees no hope in the mirror

When opposition customarily yields to conquest
But the victor's night is still lonely and cold

When everything
Seems
To be going my way
In truth, I often have nothing to lose.

Separated from friends,
I know what I must do,
Laugh with happy strangers
When happiness makes me blue.

Navigator, are you trying to find a way to journal how you're feeling? Or a way to write to move past the loneliness?

You wrote so with such expressiveness about the picnic - maybe more of those stories, knowing that you're sharing your experiences with others would help?