help!! visitation ultimatum

Let me qualify this forst by saying that you really need to discuss this with a licensed Family Atty in your state yo get a full picture of all of your options.

Generally though, Title 9 of the AR Code doesn't allow for termination of child support obligations unless it is done as part of an adoption process (i.e. if you married and your new spouse wanted to adopt the child (and the natural father was agreeable to it) the support from the natural father would be terminated as a part of the adoption process).

It's also unlikely that any court is going to award him any sort of custody knowing that he's never seen this child before.

He can seek whatever he'd like to seek but, based on what you listed here, it doesn't sound like he has a leg to stand on - IOW, he's blowing smoke. If he had been involved with the child all along then he might have some sort of argument for partial custody but that doesn't seem to be the situation here. Visitation is something he'd probably get but IMO, that's about it.

SO since he wants to sign them over and I have recently remarried.... would it probably be a good idea to get this taken care of while he is willing?

Yes, fishin is right. Talk to a family lawyer ASAP. If you remarry and your husband wants to adopt your child and this is what you all want, there's no problem, but the father is obligated to pay support until then. At most, he may get visitation rights, but sonce he never attempted to see his child, then you could fight that and he may not be awarded visitation. Joint custody is something he will not get.

I know if it was me, if I remarried and my new husband was all up for adopting my child, I'd jump on that in a heartbeat and get the dead beat dad as far out of you and your childs life as you can get him. He sounds just like the father of my son and that means nothing but trouble.

Thank you guys so much. You have helped me know that I am making the right choice. I'll let you know what happens.TY

Yes, please do. Best of luck to you and welcome to A2K :-D

I also wanted to add that if the father signs over his rights and your new husband adopts your child, the father no longer has any rights at all as far as your child is concerned, and that includes no visitation. From the sounds of him, this would be the very best thing for you child.

I emailed three attorneys tonight...x...i have my fingers crossed...

Good job. A good lawyer is a gift ;-)