WhoodaThunk, please don't stoop so low to placing all atheists and agnostics into the same category. As for atheists having to "ask and listen," what exactly should we ask about?
Individual: Sorry for stooping. I suppose you have a valid point there, but my experience has been that agnostics/atheists are the antithesis to the Bible-banging, doorbell-ringing evangelicals. Many are near-rabid in their disdain for theists -- scoffing at their ignorance, dismissing faith as superstition, writing voluminous letters-to-the-editor, etc.
I sometimes wonder if they are capable of comprehending "faith" ... if they're capable of dropping their defenses, becoming vulnerable ... and I also wonder whether their beliefs are nothing more than a misguided effort to hurt a God who they perceive as having hurt them ... a God who gave their child cancer, who allowed a tsunami to occur, who killed their mother in an auto accident, who allows priests to molest little boys, etc. Only they ... and God ... truly know the condition of their hearts, and I seriously doubt any will openly bear their souls in an internet chatroom. And why should they?
But I would be interested in hearing your thoughts about the different "categories" of non-believers.
You said, "What exactly should we ask about?" Probably not pink elephants and neutrons. C'mon. You know the answer to your own question. Do you really
believe that life is nothing more than eating, pooping, buying, and selling?