RECIPE FOR HEARTACHE.

Never mind the saucepan! Gossip is sufficient.

Take heart in this Biblical Proverb: "The lip of truth shall be established for ever: but a lying tongue is but for a moment" (Proverbs 12:19).

Do you think thats true?

definately true

the liars always fade out. they don't stand up to ppl who are truthful. they have no staying power.

If there was any justice it would be .... but my observation, no matter how unfair, is that mud sticks.

I feel that people are so quick to believ the bad stuff or gossip that untrue.
I dont think its fair to be judged on lies and there is nothing that can be done about it.

Are you speaking of a personal situation, material girl?

I know this is the main reason for being down, my personal life has come to a standstill the past couple of years I have had too much time to look back on things.
Some of the guys I knew could be really nasty but at the time I wanted to fit in and have friends and didnt stand up for myself like I do now.
I just keep thinking about things that were said in my life by certain people eg,one guy said I 'put on a special smile' another called me a slapper despite the fact that Im not and he'd tried to get me into bed many times and NEVER succeded.
Also a couple of summers ago I went to a BBQ with friends, it was a boiling hot day so I wore a little top(admittedly with plunging neckline but I was with friends so I didnt think it mattered)and a woman there critisised me for bearing a cleavage,it was boiling hot day!!!and she is certainly no saint herself!!

Its only the BAD things that stick in my mind,being called names or being critisised.Why cant I remember any good comments?

There have been only a few comments bt clearly its effecting me and I dont like it.

Oh, I'm sorry. It sounds as though you're going through a difficult time about things that happened a while back. Are you saying you've been depressed for a couple of years now?

Im depressed as in im feeling down but I dont know about being medicly depressed.Tho my brother told us he is being treated for depression a few years back, he went through the symptoms with us and I started to cry my eyes out, my family thought it was for my brother which it partly was but the rest was because I recognised the symptoms.

I keep telling myself that things will improove,il meet someone,get a better job but its taking forever and until then I can only look at the past, the future seems to hold the same thing as today and yesterday etc.

I know its silly as Im really happy when I have a boyfriend or Id imagine Id be happier doing a worthwhile job.Im sure its just a phase but its been a bloody long one.I see all my friends around me getting on with their lives and im thinking if il ever experience those things.I just feel like im an 18 yr old(Im 29)

No, it's not silly. It sounds like feeling this way is making your life a bit of an up-hill battle. Seriously, it'd be a good idea to discuss how you're feeling with your GP & see what s/he suggests. Especially since this has gone on for so long.

Thanks matey.I feel a awkward discussing things in person,thank god for forums.Ive thoght about it before but dont thinkI could bring myself to do it.
I really just need to let of steam and hopefully get lashings of sympathy and advice.Thanks

I do hope, though, that you consider talking to your doctor about it, material girl. It doesn't mean that there's anything "wrong" with you. Most of us have felt down from time to time & if it goes on for too long it can become really debilitating. I've been there & done that during tough patches, as have many other folk here. It's really difficult to struggle with feeling like this alone.

Don't do as I did material...put it off for decades. I lost a lot of good years thinking i could handle depression without help.