@TheColorfulGirl,
You see a guy you find attractive or who you have heard talking about something, you ask if he would like to go for coffee or tea or maybe a malted. If he says '
sure' then go and talk about whatever is swirlng around in your brain. Conversation will either develop or you will both realize you are not a good match and then you try the same with another guy. Eventually, you will likely find the right fit.