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Thu 26 Jan, 2017 03:32 pm
I just want to start by saying advice is welcome and appreciated.
I'm in a boarding highshool, I've never been the popular kid, but I felt I was at least liked. I once had confidence issues, but I had managed to get past those until recently.
My friend showed me a chat with a girl where she said every girl thought I was weird and that they would joke around about ending up with me.
They call me names like weirdo and joke about how I brought a pigeon to class. They've compared me to Mr Bean.
Out of context I can see why it would be weird, but what happened was that people had been throwing rocks at it and it s wing was broken, so I wanted to help it, I want to be a veterinarian actually. I suppose it was in my nature.
There's this site everyone at my school uses where you ask someone questions anonymously, I thought I'd sign up for fun. All I got was a lot of nasty things sent to me .
I guess I was a little shy before, but this has destroyed my confidence entirely.
I have only told one person I know, a close friend. I thought about telling my parents, but I didn t see how it would help, all it would do is make them hurt, I guess I would feel selfish to do that to them. I don't want them to worry about me.
I have considered ending it, but I could never do that to my family. It's a feeling of having a purpose that keeps me going.
In the end, I'm gutted, but I will never regret helping that bird.
I don't really have a question, but I wanted to put this out there.
Buck up, as we say in the US (not sure where you are), as this kind of cruel stuff happens, probably around the world. You don't read as weird to me.
I'm not sure what is smart, talking with your parents or not, having never been to a boarding school. That may be a good idea. They have been famous for being hellish for some students, but I suppose there are also good ones. I'd say (guess, really) to inform a teacher you like. Or maybe there are counsellors there?
@TNRM,
I am guessing you're in high school? Junior high level?
These years stink for a lot of people. But life gets better. For one thing, you leave the bubble and start to get a chance to associate with people who you want to associate with, and not those forced on you because they just so happen to live in your neighborhood or their parents could afford the same boarding school yours could.
Teenaged people's opinions on who they could end up with are kinda useless. We all change - so put that out of your mind, okay?
A friend of mine who I have known since 6th grade (so, it was 45 years ago, egad) became a veterinarian. She has never regretted her decision. It is a wonderful, kind, and noble profession.
@ossobucotemp,
I'll add, you will make a good veterinarian. Hang in.
@TNRM,
TNRM wrote:They [...]joke about how I brought a pigeon to class.
Did you really? That's seriously cool. Dumb kids always mock what they don't understand. In 10 years you'll be doing something interesting, and they'll be flipping burgers. You are not "weird". (And so what if you are?)
@TNRM,
TNRM wrote:Out of context I can see why it would be weird, but what happened was that people had been throwing rocks at it and it s wing was broken, so I wanted to help it
That was a really great thing to do. Good for you.
@TNRM,
Nothing weird about you. Those who ridicule kindness to animals are the weird ones. Keep your heart, and hold up your head high. This time will pass, and you'll never regret your kindness.
@TNRM,
Quote:In the end, I'm gutted, but I will never regret helping that bird.
You have a good heart and sense of right and wrong. Be proud of that and let the others laugh. Rise above it.
I know it's tough to be left out or to be the butt of a joke. You'll survive. You mentioned one close friend. Good. One good friend is worth a dozen so-so friends. And do you really want to be friends with people who ridicule and are cruel to others? If you were in that crowd you'd be expected to mock someone (or maybe throw rocks at a pigeon). Revel in your "weirdness". Flaunt it. It's what makes you you.
@TNRM,
It's a good thing that you are here. A place to let out your frustration. My worst school year was in 6th grade, where there was a gang of bullies sitting around me. I was stuck in that one class for the whole school year. Even the teacher was afraid of these guys. High school was a scorcher and meat grinder for me, but I had friends going through the same problems as me, being the quiet guys, around so many dramatic wise guys. At least I didn't get beaten up.
@TNRM,
Hang in there, you're not weird, you sound like a decent person. High school kids are notoriously conformist, nobody wants to stand out as at all different, and people will sheepishly follow the popular kids. "If they're picking on you they're not picking on me."
Come university everything flips, people want to express themselves and be seen as an individual, sometimes a bit too much.
This will pass sooner than you know it, you will have friends/lovers, things will get a lot easier. You just have to grit your teeth and hang on.
@TNRM,
I guess you are a warm boy, actually ,we don't need to be a popular one.
Basically nobody can unsterstand you , maybe you have no talk with others.
You will gain more in the future, trust me , just keep your faith.
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