My daughter told me that a girl in her class pulled her into the bathroom in the aftercare program. This girl then pulled her pants down to show my daughter her underwear. My daughter had no interest in seeing. This girl then pulled my daughter’s pants down to see her underwear which my daughter wanted no part of. They are in the 4th grade.
Now what to do? I don’t want to make a big deal about it as I prefer kids to handle things on their own. This girl is only girl in her class that causes trouble " she is quite a handful and I have witnessed her being manipulative to the other girls.
So far I sent a quick note to the principal " pretty much stating, I don’t want to make a big deal, but wanted to let her know about it. I also made it clear that I understood I am only hearing my daughter’s side.
I also spoke with my daughter about the behavior being inappropriate and that I may speak with the principal. My daughter did not object and actually seemed to welcome me speaking with the principal. I am concerned that she could allow herself to being pushed around. I plan on speaking with her more to ensure she stands up for herself more.
Do you think I went overboard sending a quick note to the principal? I am also concerned about potential bullying. What else should I speak to my daughter about to give her more of a backbone?
u consider it to have been BULLYING
-- done in that oppressive spirit--
then u were absolutely right.
Nothing is more important than defending your child.
Did she deem it to have been bullying ?
During my childhood, I was not above threatening litigation
for violations of my rights.
On the other hand, if
she were not
guilty of bullying,
she were only fooling around with no malice,
then I believe that u shoud not take action that might be inimical
to her well being and contentment. Was there anger displayed
at the time n place of the occurrence ? Any THREATS
I remember once in school, when I was ten,
I playfully and very lightly hit another boy (same age).
To my shock and chagrin, he began weeping copiously.
I felt terrible -- just awful. I apologized several times,
very sincerely, explaining that I had not meant to hurt him,
and again the next day, and again on the 3rd day.
I had not intended to make him unhappy.
I had a bad feeling about that for several days.
Your description does not necessarily bespeak a malicious attack,
as if she had slugged her in the mouth or had given her a black eye.
Does your child believe that the offender was malicious,
or " just fooling around " ?