Many people have an unrealistic expectation of the law.
You are quite right in saying the law doesn't care - it doesn't care - anywhere. And it's not there to care. It's a set of rules. It's there to set boundaries, and manage situations in a black & white way...
.....unfortunately, when you have family conflict involved, it's rarely black and white.
As examples here:
- you mention his criminal drug history, yet make no mention whether or not he is still offending; and
- you don't mention whether or not you have similar drug / crime problems
None of that is to say that you are a drug addiction etc - but rather, its a recognition that people in disputes, when talking to a 3rd party (in this case the court), often withhold information on themselves / their behaviour to paint themselves in a favourable light - and I've no doubt family law courts are well aware of this. The common enough experience of vested interests, withholding of information, and attempts to paint the other party in the worst possible light, is what makes family law so much more grey
My exes attorney is making me look like the bad person by repeatedly asking me how I think one hour supervised visitation is meaningful contact.
Answer: 1 hour supervised visit isn't meaningful contact. The reason for it being supervised & only 1 hour is.... (you'd probably get interrupted at this stage as you'd already answered the question - but the reason, is what your lawyer is there to elicit for the court)
That's the court case. But whatever the outcome, how you handle it will be how your children learn to deal with conflict:
- if you deal with calmly and with explanation to them, they will learn how to do that
- if you deal with it through hysteria, they will learn that is an acceptable way to deal with conflict that goes against you
- if you deal with it through petty revenge, they will learn to deal with conflict in that way
- if you deal with it with dignity, they will learn to deal with conflict in a dignified manner
- if you deal with it with anxiety, they will learn that
- if you deal with it by always looking for the (positive) lesson, they will learn to look for positives in adversity...etc
You have plenty to teach your children about life, how to handle conflict, how to make the best through adversity, and how to live a happy life even when things go wrong.
It may give you something to strive for.