You might get some ideas by wading through the "Is free will an illusion" thread current on the philosophy forum.
In the interim, my opinion is that 'choice' is merely a useful
word in those social contexts where society holds individuals 'responsible' for their actions... i.e. where there are social consequences
of the actions of an individual thereby giving substance to other concepts such as 'culpability', 'bravery'...etc. In short, the word 'choice' must be judged by its social functionality, and tends to have little meaning in mundane situations like 'choosing which shirt to wear'. Determinists will of course forever argue with religionists about the concept of 'free will', but such polar arguments tend to ignore the social dimensions of semantics.
In your example, the issue boils down to whether you feel yourself to be judged as 'a responsible caring individual.' Obviously 'your choice' would imply that, though you may simply be operating on a 'calculation' of 'how to be comfortable with yourself'.
(NB one view of 'self' is that it consists of an argumentative committee reflecting the diversity of society. Decisions can be fluid and inconsistent)