I was watching the movie "Her" late at night this week and one of the things they talked about kind of had me thinking.
The main guy was talking about his fear that he had experienced all of the feelings that he ever would. Anything else he ever experienced would be a variation on something he has already experienced. He would experience fist love again or the first time flying or kissing, etc.
This has been mulling around inside my head since watching the movie and I am wondering that if I, a 45 year old guy that has experienced quite a lot, has experienced everything new that I will.
Opinions or thoughts? Lets discuss it.
This question seems to have a hidden presumption though, namely that each first experience sort of taps into a hitherto unexplored or untapped set of feelings, and that each subsequent experience will be recognized as being a repetition or slight derivation of that first time.
But where does one draw the line on what constitutes 'new' here?
Suppose you descend down a hill on a street on your roller skates for the first time? And then do the same on a skate board? Or on roller blades?
Do these three actions each count as a 'first time', or are these variations of each other, and do they count as repetitions with minor differences?
There are some further issues to consider as well though:
- Take, for instance, the first time you exceeded the speed limit in your car.
Odds are, you weren't even aware of it. However, does that mean that the second time you break the speed limit, given that you are aware of it this time, means you experience it for the 'first' time?
- And what if you are at a later point of time confronted with an action that you were unaware of at the time? Take, for instance, a ticket you receive for speeding for that first time, when you were not aware of it? Does that 'change' the way you perceived that first time experience that you thought
you had? In the example given, does that change the way you perceive the second time you broke the speed limit, which you hitherto believed to be the first time?
- It seems a tad trite as an example, but if you consider a person who, for one reason or another, has no memories of a certain part of his or her life. Does this person again get to experience firsts? Does body memory play a part here?
- How about doing something you enjoy again after a long time had passed? Let's say a person had a passion for driving fast in expensive cars. But this person experienced financial troubles, and was unable to drive for a number of years, since (s)he didn't have the money for a car. But then their luck changed, and they managed to buy an expensive car again. When you drive it after going without for so long, - even though this person might have driven fast thousands of times before - , would this time, after all these barren years, not feel like the first time all over again?