48 years late

What country are you from?

I am from the UK. The west midlands. Just seems everywhere I turn there's a closed door, I have medical problems also so would like to know if there are anyore surprises. It's just to get closure more than anything.

And it's your mothers right not to discuss him if she doesn't want to.

Funny thing about rights. They go both ways.

As far as your kids and "it's not fair", here's a newsflash...life isn't.

You need closure? Make your own closure. One that doesn't include "it's my right, and it's not fair."

The best closure is moving on.

Everyone's intitled to their opinion. And as for life not being fair you need a bit of empathy. If you got nothing to say of value don't reply. It's that simple.

Well zarreena, as you said, everyone is entitled to their opinon, including you.

That's regardless of the value I'm assigning what you say. See? It feels kind of weird when someone turns pearls of wisdom around on the speaker of them., doesn't it?

Empathy or no, life is not fair, and no one is in any position to tell me what I need. That's just something you think I should do. There're some things just jam packed with value for you to learn, if you choose.

If you don't choose, which I doubt you will....meh.

There is no reason to be so nasty Chai. Obviously Zarreena knows that she has to go on with life. That doesn't mean that a little sympathy wouldn't help.

I agree with you that your mom should tell you more about your dad. I don't know if there is anything you can do about it. I would probably be hurt and angry at my mother if I were in your situation.

I don't know what else you can do to find him. I just want to wish you luck in your search.

There are various adoption support agencies and registers. They vary from country to country. I suggest you look into them.
http://www.afteradoption.org.uk/

I'm an adoptee, who was lucky enough to get very open and honest parents. I haven't done any searching, but I know her name, and know where to go if I want to get information (and I was fortunate enough to have my natural brother adopted by the same parents - at our mother's request).

Thanks for the posative words. Nice to know some decent folk out their x

You know, if you were a true decent person, you wouln't have felt the impulse to write that 2nd sentence. Just had to get your passive aggressive shot in there (btw, the word you wanted before x was there, not their), didn't you?

To waylay your next comment that "well you're not decent" ...Hell no, I'm not decent according to your definition. You know, the definition that doesn't include considering the reality of situations, and only wants the world to be filled with puppies and kittens and daddies that want to meet their little girls.

I also know how to spell.