My wife and I recently dined at one of her favorite restaurants and now she tells me that she was embarrassed because I asked the waitress for white sugar with my cappuccino.
I don't like brown sugar and while I don't mind it so much with a normal cup of coffee where I have less than 1/2 a spoon of sugar, I do like a fair bit of sugar with cappuccino and that much brown sugar would spoil it for me.
When the cappuccino arrive, I noticed that there was only brown sugar on the table, so I looked around for the waitress. My wife asked what was wrong and I asked her to let me know if she sees our waitress as I'd like to get white sugar. My wife said most people don't care about what sugar they have and I should either have the brown sugar or leave the cappuccino, but that seemed strange to me as I had already agreed to pay for the cappuccino by asking for it. My wife waved the waitress down and asked for white sugar and the waitress brought sweetener, which, I'm sorry, is even worse than the brown sugar
I noticed that my wife was getting uncomfortable, so I left it at that and had the brown sugar. Not a big deal.
Tonight, 2 days later, my wife tells me that I don't understand social rules and that I should not have asked for white sugar in the first place.
I don't know, but it sounds a bit extreme to me. I wasn't being overly demanding or complaining about every little thing, I asked the waitress once for a different type of sugar. And then when she brought something other than what I'd asked for, I didn't make a big deal out of it.
Am I wrong for having asked for sugar in the first place?