People - when I said the "male is more likely to be the pursuer" I meant it in the biological sense, not in specific relation to this case. And, nimh, if biologically ingrained gender roles regarding sex are "pseudo-scientific baloney," your going to have a tough time explaining why we notice the same dynamic (pursuer, pursued) in pretty much every other animal on the planet.
Ah, thats what I thought - pseudo-scientific baloney. Thanks for confirming my suspicions there.
species where the male is not in fact the pursuer, as any occasional viewer of Animal Planet should know. Are they being "unnatural" because there are more of the other kind? Of course not. The no-brainer here is that one species' behaviour simply says nothing about what is natural for another's. And thus the span of patterns in the rest of the animal world also says nothing about what is natural (or "biologically ingrained") in humans.
As far as humans go, you and I well know that both men and women pursue each other quite diligently. It is true that in our culture, as Brandon so helpfully points out <giggles>, "males ask females out and females wait to be asked out". Well, thats how it used to be, anyway. I dont see how its still the case now, actually - but hey, perhaps I'm just part of a scene where we've lost all touch with our biologically ingrained selves, you never know. In any case, as Brandon already admitted, "The female may be pursuing in her own way" (duh). The whole, but she's not supposed to do the actual asking here thus is clearly mere social convention, that has demonstrably changed over time, too.
Then there's, of course, the glaring contrast between your assertion about what is biologically ingrained, and this story, in which it was obviously the woman who pursued, in the crudest way possible.
I'll offer an anecdote, which I think solidifies my argument as indisputable: I would have banged my eighth grade teacher with glee, and likely would have trumpeted it throughout the school as a victory of sorts.
Right. That solidifies your argument? Seriously?
I had this English teacher myself that I thought was kinda hot. I gladly told myself I would just have loved to be with her. In actuality, it probably wouldnt have been so hot, and definitely not healthy.
There's no difference between men and women here. If anything, there's more
teenage girls avidly fantasizing about their male teachers. But as story after story has shown us, when it actually starts happening, its often a different story. Even if the occasional male teacher/female student relationship did end up right, more often than not there's guilt and powertrips and some kind of abuse of position going on. Your bravado aside, there's little evidence that the same tricky psychological stuff wouldnt be coming up when it's a boy that gets involved in it. And this teacher, in any case, was clearly going on some kind of powertrip here.
Concerning the man/woman thing in general - leaving this case aside for a moment - let me go out on a limb actually and suggest that sexual abuse (of children and so on) by women is probably way underestimated. I'm sure its not anything like the scope of that of abuse by men, but I'd still bet something on it being far more widespread than ever gets out now.