How do we talk about God without resorting to religion?
If you believe in God, and you believe in the things that you say about God then those things are religion.
At some point, all great theologians find they have to leave scripture behind, and sooner or later they say something that is not compatible with the religion that are part of ... .
I'm not sure you can.
There is an old saying 'You can't be in a religion of one'.
There are hundreds of paths up the mountain,
all leading in the same direction,
so it doesn’t matter which path you take.
The only one wasting time is the one
who runs around and around the mountain,
telling everyone that his or her path is wrong.
Calling god by gender exposes the anthropomorphism that compels god belief.