@MozartLink,
Unfortunately, this is not only about being good and bad when helping people, but also is about being good and bad suggesting people not to help others.
This is the case of Suze Orman, who is an economist adviser TV host.
A question she received was from a couple who asked her if it was a good idea to take some money from their retirement funds in order to help their son for his college studies.
Suze Orman suggested a severe "no".
Her reasons were many, from: not a good idea because the money will be taxed, because they deserve to enjoy the money for their retirement years, because the son must learn to fight its own future, and so forth.
But, by using the family tight in play, parents =even when they are not obligated to do so- must help their own (in this case their children) to be successful in life.
It is more, if not a good investment to be recovered (lets say the son becomes a professional, leaves the house and never comes back and never calls back either) they have caused their own to continue in this life with better standing.
I heard of a woman who's daughter was stealing her money because she was handicapped and the daughter used her bank card to take some extra money for herself. The old woman was asked if she will do something about it. The old woman said that she prefers a million times to be robbed by her own daughter than being robbed by an unknown person.
What Suze Orman did was to obey what the boss told her to answer. This is because the "boss" are the investors who pay her to tell people to keep their money in their investments instead of pulling the money to be used for paying college fees.
In this case, Suze Orman is indeed a good economy adviser, but a bad, a really bad person.
A good person will never ever stop the will of people helping others.