I asked D his thoughts he knows I've been discussing this with him from day dot.
His thoughts made sense to me.. I asked him a few questions as he's a man ...
He said, "Elliot in his opinion was mentally incapable of having a relationship with anyone" based on all that I have told him. This is true, he didn't even respect his Mother in the end as she refused to marry the Millionaire. He respected his Father when he "thought" he must be cool able to score another woman so fast at 7 years of age, who thinks like that at 7?
If anything he therefore believes Elliot was A Sexual...
So no I don't think he had gay tendencies. I think he had mental issues lived in a fantasy world, had damage that screwed his thought pattern, that's evident with his fantasy about women in a camp. Which he gleaned from his Grandfather's history
I don't think he had gay tendencies either, but I think he did have fears that others, particularly other males, might view him that way.
From at least the age of 5, when he wasn't as good as the other boys in his pre-school at football, he felt inadequate compared to other males. In elementary school, it was because he was short and not as physically strong as the others, but when an even shorter boy was better at basketball than he was, that enraged him even more. It mirrored his later rage when he saw or heard about, or even thought, about non-white males having more sexual success with white women than he did, because he was half-white, and, in his mind, that made him superior to them.
And when he was older, in high school, the other male teens attracted female attention and he didn't, and he saw these "brutes" as less deserving than he was. It was all about his jealousy and envy and feeling inadequate compared to other males, and his anger about that, and toward them, was intensified by the bullying he was subjected to, some of which may have included insults about his masculinity, since males do taunt each other with insults like "pussy"--we can see that sort of thing even going on at A2K. And when he was beaten up at the only college party he tried to attend, mainly because of his own inappropriate behavior, being called a "faggot" was like the final insult--it was after that party he became determined to seek revenge. He must have made an issue of the "faggot" slur, because when he made a report of the incident to the police, they first considered classifying it as a hate crime--and that would have made sense only if Elliot was gay, or if the police thought he might be. So I do think, on some level, he had concerns about other males perceiving him to be gay.
By the time he got to college, he was in such a rage about seeing any couple together, he couldn't sit in a class if there was a couple in it, and he hated women for denying him the status they gave to these less deserving men, so his anger focused more intensively on women as being the controlling power, the ones denying him his entitlements, and, by the end, he was much more focused on stripping women of their power, both through his rape fantasies and his fantasies of putting them into concentration camps, then with having a relationship of any sort with them. He wasn't sexually frustrated, or desirous of a real sexual relationship, his ultimate rage at all of humanity basically stemmed from his feeling that he didn't fit into the world as a man
--he wasn't measuring up, and he hated and blamed others for making him feel that way, because he felt superior, and he was going to demonstrate that superiority--his Alpha maleness--through violence, and his capacity to destroy life.
I don't think Elliot was asexual, but I don't think his problems were primarily sexual, or at all related to wanting a sexual relationship, or even about getting laid. It was all about fitting in, being seen as a normal male. Having a beautiful girl by his side, or in the passenger seat of his car, would validate his being a normal, successful male--particularly in the eyes of other men. It was all about superficial appearances, not with actually wanting a sharing caring relationship with a female. Women were like expensive sweaters to him, they could make him look good, which is why he wanted a beautiful one next to him, mainly for other men to see.
I totally agree with D, when he said, "Elliot in his opinion was mentally incapable of having a relationship with anyone"--and that was what Elliot never understood about himself. That's why he blamed everyone else for his misery and loneliness--he didn't have the innate social capacities that would have allowed him to develop relationships and friendships--that's why his mother had to arrange play-dates for him. But, by the time he hit puberty, his mother could no longer structure a social life for him, and he was totally unable to develop one for himself--he wasn't just shy, he was significantly socially disabled and extremely withdrawn all of his life--perhaps due to biology and autism. Most of us can't imagine what it's like to be disabled in that way, or to suffer from autism, and that's part of what makes Elliot difficult to understand.
No way was Elliot a normal disaffected or dejected young man--he was never normal--he never acquired normal social skills or a normal understanding of social interactions --he couldn't function adequately in social situations, he simply experienced distress because he couldn't cope--that's why he had to change high schools 3 times, and why Santa Barbara was his 3rd attempt at trying to attend college, he couldn't function at the first 2 he attended part-time.
He was clueless about relationships--he had no idea about the reciprocal nature of most relationships, including sexual and family relationships, I don't think he understood reciprocity at all, and it wasn't something he was at all capable of, even with his few childhood friends. He was on the very infantile level of seeing other people as either satisfying his needs or not, and he never moved beyond that. He really wasn't capable of having a normal relationship with anyone. But, because Elliot didn't understand that, he blamed all sorts of other things, and people, for his social isolation and loneliness and despair. He could appreciate scenery, but he couldn't appreciate, or fathom, the complexity of other people or their social interactions. His views of other people, including his parents, are rather one-dimensional and flat.
I don't think we can understand Elliot without trying to imagine what effect being autistic had on his social functioning and his perceptions of others, and on how others perceived and reacted to him. By all accounts, including those of his father and family friends, he was a difficult and self-absorbed person to be around, he wasn't appealing, and he wasn't just shy, he was difficult to tolerate, particularly when obsessed with an issue like losing his virginity. His father also said he was rigid and compulsive about things, like the placement of plates on a table, which is often a characteristic of autistic individuals. While his family and 2 childhood friends understood, and likely accommodated his problems, the outside world largely didn't, and his step-mother might have been unwilling to do that as much as his parents did.
And, the older Elliot got, the more mental health problems became superimposed on his autism, rendering him even more dysfunctional, and paranoid, and ultimately lethal. He never coped or functioned well, but increasingly more severe mental health problems, which he managed to conceal, were what lead to his irrational killing spree. And his autism may have predisposed him to developing mental health problems that really were beyond anyone's ability to successfully address, partly because he kept them well hidden, but partly because he had pre-existing biological problems that made treating him, or just dealing with him, extremely difficult for those around him, and it may well have been difficult to see what was due to autism, and what was due to mental illness. I think that's one reason his parents were blind-sighted by his capacity for murderous violence when he finally revealed it. I suspect that was the case for his therapists as well.
If his Father tried to get him to see a Prostitute then in his "way" he was trying to open Elliot up sexually...
I think his father was being well meaning in trying to help him lose his virginity with a prostitute, so he wouldn't have the virginity issue to continually obsess about. And, while Elliot rejected the idea, it likely would have been the only kind of sexual experience he could have handled, because the female's attention would have focused entirely on pleasing and gratifying him, and that's exactly what Elliot wanted--he just didn't like the idea that someone was only doing that because they were being paid. He wanted some beautiful girl to take one look at him, drag him off to her bed, and devote herself exclusively to pleasuring him. That really was his fantasy. He had no understanding of relationships, or reciprocity, so his father's suggestion about getting him a prostitute really wasn't a bad idea at all. Elliot just saw having to pay for what he wanted as another wound to his narcissism and sense of entitlement..