The thread dedicated to himself's passing was saved by me in two files. I can't open the first for some reason, but, I cleared out the names and copied for pasting the comments that were available. Some a2k members may recognize their comments here.
I am so sad that you lost your husband, it is difficult for me to
express it here. You don't know this, but the first time I
became aware of you, I read a poem either by you or about the
young men that you tried to help, and it touched my soul, and
now, once more my heart goes out to you, and I don't even know
you. Once, maybe like your husband, I thought I was angered by
injustice, but later I learned that I was saddened by other's
pain. As you could imagine it is rare that I feel happiness.
I am 54, was in-country from 68-69, which began a highly critical
view of what we are told is the truth.
All I can say is thank you; you, your husband, and all the
healers that have ever lived for without you this world wouldn't
be worth a damn.
About the doctor, who made "Himself" leave the hospital, please
sue the bastard, not for money, but so that he and the system of
cynicism he represents will not be so willing to treat another as
callously as they treated your husband.
I hardly know you, but I can't believe how much it pains me to
read of your loss. And this from a cynical and crippled foolish
man. Stay well, there are people who love you, that you don't
My condolences to you.
Himself was a fine man.
We had a minor disagreement about a year ago, and we traded a
couple of personal emails of reconciliation--with Tom speaking
outside his "Himself" persona.
It was a delightful note--and we never again had a cross word to
say to each other.
(He did have some rather funny things to say about a comment I
made to him, to wit: "...it would make the hair on your head
We will all miss his sharp wit and insightful observations of the
My condolences. I am shocked to hear how you were treated by that
I wish I could say something that would cheer you up, but words
My deepest sympathies to you to hear the loss of of your beloved.
I am going to miss him in these columns.
I could not feel worse if it were a mamber of my personal family.
I don't get around on Abuzz as much as many Abuzzers, so I rarely
interacted with your husband. But I often enjoyed his
intelligence and wit. I'm very sorry he's gone. I'm also upset
about the fact the the hospital made him leave when he was so
clearly in need. This is upsetting as well. To the extent that
it comforts you to know that your husband was appreciated, be
assured that I was often delighted by his presence in any
discussion. I'll miss him.
Dear Mrs. Dunne,
Thank you so much for telling us about Himself's final hours. I
am very upset about how it happened. As Jonathon Swift wrote and
I apply this to Himself. "If there is a heaven, he is there."
Himself once urged me to "Lift yeself up, laddie."
I trust he, himself, has now been elevated.
My condolences to you.
Grieving, and sending a prayer. lou
just got back on abuzz after being off the computer for about 24
hours or so. i'm very sorry to hear of your loss.
What a beautiful name - Thomas Dunne. I only now know that this
is the birth name of "Himself."
I just learned of the death of Himself in the past few moments.
I responded to the words of another Abuzzer on this sad
happening. Then I discovered this thread posted by you - who was
I often read Abuzz without responding - because sometimes I
simply like to read and learn. I often read the postings of
Himself - without responding to them because they were so
philosophical - so mystical - so poetic - I did not know how to
do them justice. So I simply read them and wondered who this
poetic person was.
As some people have mentioned - he was at the top of the class
where it came to Abuzzers. A very classy man - very elegant and
aristocratic in hiw musings on life and manner of expression.
He was such a poetic figure in his manner of expression - that I
imagined him as an Irish poet. And now that I know that he has
passed from this world to the next - I am wondering more about
the man "Thomas Dunne." I am wondering how he came to have such
a philosophical and poetic personality.
The response of fellow Abuzzers - the saddess felt by many -
seems to say that in a very strange way - people who contribute
on a regular basis to Abuzz become something of a family.
I have expressed things on Abuzz that I have never expressed to
members of my biological family - simply because when I have
tried -they haven't seemed to be that interested.
So people of like spirit - like mind - seek each other out in
Abuzz. And many people found upliftment of the spirit through the
poetic musings of Himself.
Thank you to you for sharing what you did about his life
and passing. The way you and he were treated by the hospital is
a very sad testament to the society we all struggle in these
days. I don't want to pursue that topic in this thread - because
I feel that Himself would wish all of us to focus on the
uplifting aspects of his life and passing. At least at this
And as I said on the other thread - I would guess that wherever
Himself is now - there is a part of him aware of the condolences
that are being expressed on his behalf today. And he might be
listening and watching all with that Irish humour of his.
Please accept my prayers and condolences. And please
accept my thanks for all that you contrbuted to the life of
Himself - that helped him in his quest to contribute to life as
He left quite a legacy in his writings. And he triggered a
respect for mystery in all of us who read his words.
My most sincere condlences.
True individual, never selling out on the conversation. His
unique witicisms will be missed as will Himself.
What sad news. I will miss Himself. I enjoyed both his "brogue"
style of writing and his more "usual" one. Living in Aurora,
CO, myself, I am beside myself that a Colorado hospital could be
so callous (not a strong enough word)!
My heartfeld condolences.
I adored Himself. He had a rare way with words. Abuzz will not
be the same.
I offer you my deepest sympathy on the death of your husband. I had seen his name from time to time on my abuzz travels
and thought that he always had something interesting to say.
I can't believe that someone was as uncaring to both you and he
as they would have to be to send him home with a blood sugar in
the high 300's. I too am a diabetic and know exactly what that
means. If you need someone to horsewhip these people, I happily
volunteer for the job.
My prayers go to you. He was
one whose humor shone through some contentious debates.
I shall miss his brogue and wit.
I am deeply saddened to learn of this. I have always enjoyed "
Himself's" wit and wisdom and we will be the poorer now that he
is gone. I am shocked to hear of the treatment he received at
the hospital, how could they have been so heartless? I wish you
well and will keep you in my prayers. Peace.
JUST A REMINDER
On another thread devoted to our old friend Himself, several of
us mentioned that this evening (Friday) we will raise a glass in
toast and memory of this fine gentleman.
I'll be offering my toast at about 7:00 PM eastern time, but you
can adjust the time for your area. Please join us.
I'll be there with a toast and a prayer.
Here's the link to "An Irish Wake ~ Himself (Thomas Dunne)
I did not know your husband, however I think I came across him on
abuzz some time ago when I was under another pseudonym. It must
be a great loss to you and I wish you the PAX that himself would
have wished you.
Our prayers and thoughts are still with you as you are now
entering another emotional part of dealing with your loss.
Himself was beloved by all on Abuzz as is seen in the writings
from so many abuzzers... The hospital should most certainly be
investigated and even though I know that your loss can never be
righted - surely an investigation and whatever else it takes, may
hopefully prevent this from happening to anyone else.
My condolences on your terrible loss.
You have my sincere sympathy. I know hat it feels like since I
too was in the same situation with my husband. Nothin will bring
him back but a malpractice would make those who failed to care
for him think twice with the next patient. so if you can do it,
do it. It matters little when someone says, "He was 73 and was
going to die regardless." The point is the hosptal sent you home
without making an attempt to help him out. My prayers are with
you for our comfort. The only thing in life we can take with us
is a memory. The only thing we can leave behid on earth is a
memory. Sounds to me like you had some wonderful memories.
Cherish them. When something gets yoo down think of a wonderful
moment you shared to get you through it. God Bless....
I am saddened by your loss.
He was one of my favourites.
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