Some Unforgettable People

Reply Sat 6 Nov, 2004 10:33 pm
I am writing a series of short stories covering the family over a span of fifty years. Long Shadows and the one preceding are a part of it.
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Reply Tue 9 Nov, 2004 05:23 pm
There were four mugs hanging above the cash register.
"So, you're Mike's kid, huh?"
The bar-owner's voice was totally devoid of emotion; neither cold nor cordial.
"We've heard about you."

The place-the bar-was dreary. It was in a sad part of a dying town. I, like many of my friends, had left that town as soon as we could, eager to go someplace, anyplace. And most of us never looked back.

There were four bar-stools and four tables, each with four chairs. No jukebox, no music at all and no tv.

"Beer, please," I said.

A guy came in and took the stool at the other end of the bar. An old guy with huge hands that seemed to be missing a few fingertips.
And a couple drifted in and settled at one of the tables. And another man wearing a coat and tie and finally a woman dressed totally in purple: shoes, stockings, dress, shaw and hat. All deep purple.

"This is Mike's kid."

No one said anything. They just looked at me.

"Give me his mug."

I took it. I looked at it and then I slammed it against the edge of the bar as hard as I could. Pieces of glass flew around and I was left holding just the handle.
I couldn't think of anything to say so I started walking towards the door.

The purple lady said, "Mike talked about you all the time. He said you were the greatest."
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Reply Tue 9 Nov, 2004 05:26 pm
Very descriptive, if somewhat cryptic. I enjoyed reading it.
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Reply Tue 9 Nov, 2004 07:55 pm
I did too.
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Reply Wed 16 Mar, 2005 08:47 pm
Just returned from the funeral of my friend Jim. He was almost 83. Recalling the first few times I met with him, six years ago, my other pal, GL, and I tried our usual kidding, suggesting he should buy us porterhouse steak dinners, etc., all meant in fun. Jim looks concerned. "I'm not a-gonna do it," he says. It took a few weeks to break him in to our band of convoluted humor, but we all became close in a short time. Jim was just too good a guy. As was said about him today, "I never heard him make a negative comment the whole time I knew him."

He made frequent missionary trips to Guayana, bringing me and GL coins of the realm for keepsakes. When he became too weakened to go anymore, he posted a note on the bulletin board, offering Bible study sessions in his home. Nobody responded.

Jim was fond of his plants on his patio. Once, he planted some blackberry vines in the bed at the patio, and they produced some big berries. Then some kids discovered the vines and not only took the berries, one of them pushed his wife down when she confronted her. So Jim removed the berries and planted a couple of banana trees. He was eager for them to make fruit. I believe they are going to do so this season.

At the funeral, I learned new facts about him. Born in Arkansas, he got his first pair of shoes while in high school. Tail gunner in WWII, was primal in founding a children's home in Colorado.

Preceded in death by several siblings.

He requested a closed coffin, and also that the presentation be a joyful one as near as possible. He did not wish to be mourned, but cheered on his way.

They burried him in the nearby town of Magnolia.
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Reply Fri 12 May, 2006 08:47 pm

My first encounter with Tom Dunne ("himself" on Abuzz) went less than smoothly. He gave my entry post an unfavorable rating, as did the other participants. All I knew was, here were people discussing something about Hitler, and I resented the possibility that that cretin might in the end seem a bit more human as a result. My intrusion was more than brash; it was crude and stupid.

Himself told me plainly that I had erred, and it smarted to be summarily dismissed. I began to hang about the fringes of his topics, scornful of the way he obscurely presented himself, using English heavily seasoned with some sort of Irish-ness and phonetic spelling that mimicked his everyday conversational bent. It only took a few days, however, before I began to read his posts for the pleasure they brought me.

Here was an original mind, a rogue and charmer to boot. I saved some of his interactions on disk, and I intend to transcribe a few of them here on succeeding posts.
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Reply Fri 12 May, 2006 09:11 pm
Thanks Edgar, halfway through the thread and just want to say that it is incredible reading.
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Reply Fri 12 May, 2006 09:33 pm
Hi, sublime. I've neglected this thread for a good while, but it's time to get it started again.
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Reply Fri 12 May, 2006 09:39 pm
I find it amazing, edgar, that a thread can lie dormant for a year or a year and a half. And then come back to life.
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Reply Fri 12 May, 2006 09:44 pm
Those of you who didn't know Tom Dunne of Abuzz will really be taken with his character. He died a few years ago. I can't recall the malady. He went to the hospital emergency room; they sent him home, against his protestations. He passed away that same night.
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Reply Fri 12 May, 2006 10:07 pm
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Reply Sat 13 May, 2006 07:06 am
The following is a thread which himself originated. It ends abruptly as do many threads on forums.

this was put down on abuzz at 5:53 mst, 29 january ce,

this one knows not when a presidential address re the "ship of state" will be made this
day; i dinna
have a television, and the signal here in the mountains carries not the words from far off
(in many senses), the words which the pressident will utter; the text, i assume, will be
in tomorows on-line ny times.

so - i speak not of what has been said, since i have no knowledge thereof; rather, i
address the essence of what i would hear, if yhwh were good:

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 1807?82
American poet

"Thou, too, sail on, O Ship of State!
Sail on, O Union, strong and great!
Humanity with all its fears,
With all the hopes of future years,
Is hanging breathless on thy fate"

i would hear of positive future years for this land, for itself and its citizens, nay as
the face and soul of the world. that has passed, and that be well.

i would hear of reason and justice, of the true variety. with no pay-back due except to
truth and honor.

i would .....

what would ye ?
himself created this Question on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:11 PM Tue Jan 29 8:11 PM EST 2002 .


Un-named Abuzzer
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:17 PM Tue Jan 29 8:17 PM EST 2002
I would like to hear less out of your ignorant pie-hole, I would.

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:25 PM Tue Jan 29 8:25 PM EST 2002

Un-named Abuzzer
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:38 PM Tue Jan 29 8:38 PM EST 2002

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:46 PM Tue Jan 29 8:46 PM EST 2002
What kind of a poop head says such things when the poster of the
thread has only the best of intentions?

Un-Named Abuzzer
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:51 PM Tue Jan 29 8:51 PM EST 2002
Edgar, surely you're not so naive, old man?

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 7:56 PM Tue Jan 29 8:56 PM EST 2002
tsk tsk

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:23 PM Tue Jan 29 9:23 PM EST 2002
naive in what rearden person ?

the posting is, as i am, a-political.

have ye read something subliminal within the words.

then lad, ye perceice what is not there to perceive.

siochan then ?

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:25 PM Tue Jan 29 9:25 PM EST 2002
I can't remember the Yeats quote exactly, but I'd welcome the
twigs to build an eagle's nest.

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:27 PM Tue Jan 29 9:27 PM EST 2002
You have to give him credit, there are very few people on Abuzz
that are willing to be an obnoxious jerk while using his real
name (I assume it's his real name).

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:33 PM Tue Jan 29 9:33 PM EST 2002
Himself, with the current pilot at the wheel, I fear we are in
shallow waters and hard by a reef. I fear for our civil
librerties with the current crew.

Un-Named Abuzzer
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:34 PM Tue Jan 29 9:34 PM EST 2002
You're not that bright, are you?

Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:40 PM Tue Jan 29 9:40 PM EST 2002
with ye Un-Named Abuzzer, "the rest is silence".

Abuzzer #1
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:49 PM Tue Jan 29 9:49 PM EST 2002
With "reason and justice" - "truth and honour", all else would
surely follow...

Abuzzer #1
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 8:53 PM Tue Jan 29 9:53 PM EST 2002
<and free haloperidol for them as needs it>

Abuzzer #2
Added on Tue, Jan 29, 2002 10:33 PM Tue Jan 29 11:33 PM EST 2002
To Un-Named Abuzzer,

Somewhere else on Abuzz, perhaps on another interaction, you said
you had recently returned to Abuzz after an absence of some

If we asked nicely, might you consider returning to wherever you
were? Please?

Un-Named Abuzzer
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 12:27 AM Wed Jan 30 1:27 AM EST 2002

I tell you what, pal, you buy me a beer, and I'll let you return
to your little liberal circle jerk unmolested by anything
resembling reasoned thought. How's that sound?

Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 3:06 AM Wed Jan 30 4:06 AM EST 2002
Un-Named Abuzzer person -

from the name, i presume ye be of irish ancestry; that the case,
i would remind ye of the term for that green islae, the isle of "
saints & scholars" it was/is called.

now - none of us, i firmly belive, qualify for the first
chacteristic, but, but, some of us can qualify for the second.

with that is mind lad, would ye drop your mean-spirited demeanor,
and join the sentient - perhaps ?

Abuzzer #3
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 4:02 AM Wed Jan 30 5:02 AM EST 2002
Un-Named -- You are way out of your depth here so why don't you
get back under your slimy rock and shut up?

Abuzzer #4
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 6:13 AM Wed Jan 30 7:13 AM EST 2002
Thank you, himself, for reminding me of this Longfellow verse. I
think it represents what we wish our country means and has meant
to its citizens and to the world.

Troll Abuzzer
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 1:35 PM Wed Jan 30 2:35 PM EST 2002
Un-Named- I have been thinking of an appropriate response to
"himself", he of the "ye" and the "lad", for weeks. Yours( I
would like to hear less out of your pie-hole) was perfect and

Cheers and welcome back.

Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 3:27 PM Wed Jan 30 4:27 PM EST 2002
Troll -

"I have been thinking of an appropriate response to
"himself", he of the "ye" and the "lad", for weeks"

indeed, a response to what lad ? that which i wrote yesterday ?

ye, and the Un-Named one, must retreat from your mindless acid
throwing, and devote yourselves to a draft from the well of
reason and truth; aye a long draft, enough to flush from the
(your) minds system the matter (feces is part of it, ye speak of
it often) in sufficient quantity to leave but sentient
thought/words only.

cogito no more lad; rather, instinctively take the path of reason
(it be in ye), with the Un-Known in tow.

harry the king would nay be immortalized if ye (both) had been
the "band of brothers". he, and the other gallent ones, would be
buried on the agencourt fields - a tragic loss.

for this one, and for the others on this medium of similar
thought, take a path of reason lad, it WILL make all the

Abuzzer #5
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 3:43 PM Wed Jan 30 4:43 PM EST 2002
Hi, himself.

Vous avez raison, mon ami.

Right on, bro!

You hit the nail on the head. Bush did OK, too.

Un-Named Abuzzer
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 8:31 PM Wed Jan 30 9:31 PM EST 2002
I give up. Yup, himself is a scholar alright.


Abuzzer #3

You strike me as another one of the Diane Chambers types, oui?

Un-Named Abuzzer
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 9:59 PM Wed Jan 30 10:59 PM EST 2002

If you would browse through that dog-eared copy of Roget's
trapped between your legs, you'll find that mean-spirited and
sentient are not mutually exclusive. I save my best side for
those who deserve it.

Abuzzer #3
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 10:24 PM Wed Jan 30 11:24 PM EST 2002
Un-Known -- And who, pray, is Diane Chambers?

Un-Named Abuzzer
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 10:47 PM Wed Jan 30 11:47 PM EST 2002
Don't get out much, do 'ya?

Abuzzer #3
Added on Wed, Jan 30, 2002 11:05 PM Thu Jan 31 12:05 AM EST 2002
Well yes, as a matter of fact I do. Enough so that I am able to
spot an abrasive troublemaker like you.

Added on Thu, Jan 31, 2002 2:09 AM Thu Jan 31 3:09 AM EST 2002
Un-Known -

all sides of one should be the best; dinna harbour any of the mr.

be the best of yourself.
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Reply Sat 13 May, 2006 02:50 pm
I begin this one deep in the conversation:

Added on Mon, Nov 12, 2001 7:57 PM Mon Nov 12 8:57 PM EST 2001

please -

look to a companion "commentary" re this posting; this one sarted
with a flawed post.

edgar, the sinister was dealt with by the chap who lived at 221b
baker street, london, with dispatch and finality.

Added on Mon, Nov 12, 2001 8:21 PM Mon Nov 12 9:21 PM EST 2001

elementary, my dear himself

Added on Mon, Nov 12, 2001 8:35 PM Mon Nov 12 9:35 PM EST 2001

for him, perhaps.

rather a raunchy sinister for this one - need, quickly, to find
the fix.

and nay a bandaid.-

Added on Wed, Nov 14, 2001 7:15 AM Wed Nov 14 8:15 AM EST 2001

Does anyone recall when Abraham Lincoln suspended the writ of
habeous corpus?
Hi, himself, just putting my widow's mite in the plate.
Merryandrew, How does your concern carry over into your teaching

Everyone here is very articulate in stating the problem--but as
yet, I haven't see a "fix", as himself puts it.

And..in the words of Sherlock Holmes: When you have eliminated
the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the

Hi, XXX. I think you and I, lasses that we are, have just
climbed out of the trenches and are standing flat in the middle
of No Person's Land. Smile

Added on Wed, Nov 14, 2001 9:52 AM Wed Nov 14 10:52 AM EST 2001

a/the "fix" lass, is predicated on the actions of the congress,
acting under the vox populi; a fuzzy phrase, since the the "vox"
considered by the congress is of the oligarchy.

to unseat a sitting president is practically impossible WITHOUT
full congressional support.

letty lass, do ye have any input in re a "fix", or, perhaps, do
you believe one is required ?

Added on Wed, Nov 14, 2001 10:44 AM Wed Nov 14 11:44 AM EST 2001

from The People, Yes
Carl Sandburg
The people will live on.
The learning and blundering people will live on.
They will be tricked and sold and again sold
And go back to the nourishing earth for rootholds,
The people so peculiar in renewal and comback,
You can't laugh off their capacity to take it.
The mammoth rests between his cyclonic dramas.


In the darkness with a great bundle of grief
The people march.
In the night, and overhead a shovel of stars for keeps, the
people march:
"Where to? what next?"
himself, I believe the whole is greater than the sum of its
parts. I believe in America. I believe that the public school
system in America, however poor it is,is the cornerstone of
democracy. I believe in God..I believe in the people on this
thread. One day I hope to believe in myself.

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 2:02 PM Sat Nov 17 3:02 PM EST 2001

The humbug of the humbug of a humbug detector.(;-))

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 3:25 PM Sat Nov 17 4:25 PM EST 2001

ABUZZER #1. Long time--no see.(don't you hate that expression?)
Would that "humbug" be Baum or Dickens?

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 3:37 PM Sat Nov 17 4:37 PM EST 2001

Abuzzer #1 person -

i find myself lost is the jungle of humbug; can ye lead me out ?

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 4:19 PM Sat Nov 17 5:19 PM EST 2001

Letty 2, I apologize for taking so long to get back to you. The
plain truth is that I missed your question while quickly scanning
through my e-mailed Abuzz responses.

You ask how my concern carries obver into my teaching. I'm not
sure that it does, except in that I find myself stressing the
importance of understanding the Constutution when I teach
American history. I have the Bill of Rights prominently posted
on my classroom wall. Of course, it'sd hard to discuss current
events without voicing some concern. I find, however, that while
I'm teaching I still tend to be a cockeyed optimist. I'm always
accentuating the positive and trying to explain why it really
CAN'T happen here.

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 5:28 PM Sat Nov 17 6:28 PM EST 2001

Andrew, I was horrified to discover how easily a teacher could
sway the thinking of students when I taught. I tried very hard to
be objective, but when my team teacher referred to Jimmy Carter
as a peanut farmer in a derisive manner, (and she was a good
friend),all I could do was look at her in amazement. I still
believe, Andrew, that public schools are the corner stone of
democracy. God, I just wish that America would understand how
important it is to give our youth the opportunity to be educated,
no matter who they are or from whence they come. I'm still, in
retirement, very passionate about this.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. Something tells me, you
are a caring teacher. Keep the faith.

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 6:39 PM Sat Nov 17 7:39 PM EST 2001

...or create the faith, by showing the "youth (yea all) of the
education of true values. nay rote.

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 7:07 PM Sat Nov 17 8:07 PM EST 2001

himself, "Nay rote?" One must learn a language by "rote" before a
"person" may speak. I learned by rote, Thomas Moore's :"Believe
me if all those enduring young charms which I gaze on so fondly
today, were to fade by tomorrow and melt in my arms, like fairy
gifts fading away. Thou would still be adored, as this moment
thou art, let thy lovliness fade as it will. And around the dear
ruin each wish of my heart, would intwine itself verdantly still.
" Oops, was that Thomas More?
Does it matter? Now there's a man who could "see" .

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 7:13 PM Sat Nov 17 8:13 PM EST 2001

oh, good grief. Change enduring to endearing. Whatever, the
tribute is enduring. I know how that tribute came about. Do you?

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 7:37 PM Sat Nov 17 8:37 PM EST 2001

letty - moore is was:

"Thomas Moore 1779?1852
Irish musician and songwriter

Believe me, if all those endearing young charms,
Which I gaze on so fondly today,
Were to change by tomorrow, and fleet in my arms,
Like fairy gifts fading away!
Thou wouldst still be adored as this moment thou art,
Let thy loveliness fade as it will,
And around the dear ruin each wish of my heart
Would entwine itself verdantly still.

Irish Melodies (1807)"

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 7:37 PM Sat Nov 17 8:37 PM EST 2001

letty - moore is was:

"Thomas Moore 1779?1852
Irish musician and songwriter

Believe me, if all those endearing young charms,
Which I gaze on so fondly today,
Were to change by tomorrow, and fleet in my arms,
Like fairy gifts fading away!
Thou wouldst still be adored as this moment thou art,
Let thy loveliness fade as it will,
And around the dear ruin each wish of my heart
Would entwine itself verdantly still.

Irish Melodies (1807)"

Added on Sat, Nov 17, 2001 10:18 PM Sat Nov 17 11:18 PM EST 2001

Just let's not confuse Thomas Moore with Thomas More who lost his
head when Hank, the eighth of that name, wanted to marry Annie
Boylen (who, incidentally, pronounced her name Bullen, not the
French way).

Added on Sun, Nov 18, 2001 10:56 AM Sun Nov 18 11:56 AM EST 2001
Andrew, A Man for All Seasons. Great movie.

Himself, there's an interesting story behing that lovely song,
but I can't verify it. It seems that Moore's wife contracted
small pox and survived, but the hedious scarring that resulted,
caused her to lock herself in her room and refuse to come out.
Moore, supposedly wrote this poem to her and slipped it under her
door. Isn't that utterly romantic?

Added on Sun, Nov 18, 2001 11:36 AM Sun Nov 18 12:36 PM EST 2001

letty -

another gesture (nay, thoughtful act) which indicates "soul";
which will enable the species (all) to be free (again).
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Reply Sat 13 May, 2006 07:49 pm
The thread dedicated to himself's passing was saved by me in two files. I can't open the first for some reason, but, I cleared out the names and copied for pasting the comments that were available. Some a2k members may recognize their comments here.

I am so sad that you lost your husband, it is difficult for me to
express it here. You don't know this, but the first time I
became aware of you, I read a poem either by you or about the
young men that you tried to help, and it touched my soul, and
now, once more my heart goes out to you, and I don't even know
you. Once, maybe like your husband, I thought I was angered by
injustice, but later I learned that I was saddened by other's
pain. As you could imagine it is rare that I feel happiness.
Very rare.
I am 54, was in-country from 68-69, which began a highly critical
view of what we are told is the truth.
All I can say is thank you; you, your husband, and all the
healers that have ever lived for without you this world wouldn't
be worth a damn.
About the doctor, who made "Himself" leave the hospital, please
sue the bastard, not for money, but so that he and the system of
cynicism he represents will not be so willing to treat another as
callously as they treated your husband.
I hardly know you, but I can't believe how much it pains me to
read of your loss. And this from a cynical and crippled foolish
man. Stay well, there are people who love you, that you don't
even know.

My condolences to you.

Himself was a fine man.

We had a minor disagreement about a year ago, and we traded a
couple of personal emails of reconciliation--with Tom speaking
outside his "Himself" persona.

It was a delightful note--and we never again had a cross word to
say to each other.

(He did have some rather funny things to say about a comment I
made to him, to wit: "...it would make the hair on your head
curl." (!!!)

We will all miss his sharp wit and insightful observations of the
human condition.



My condolences. I am shocked to hear how you were treated by that
I wish I could say something that would cheer you up, but words
fail me.


My deepest sympathies to you to hear the loss of of your beloved.
I am going to miss him in these columns.

I could not feel worse if it were a mamber of my personal family.
Pax, .


I don't get around on Abuzz as much as many Abuzzers, so I rarely
interacted with your husband. But I often enjoyed his
intelligence and wit. I'm very sorry he's gone. I'm also upset
about the fact the the hospital made him leave when he was so
clearly in need. This is upsetting as well. To the extent that
it comforts you to know that your husband was appreciated, be
assured that I was often delighted by his presence in any
discussion. I'll miss him.


Dear Mrs. Dunne,
Thank you so much for telling us about Himself's final hours. I
am very upset about how it happened. As Jonathon Swift wrote and
I apply this to Himself. "If there is a heaven, he is there."


Himself once urged me to "Lift yeself up, laddie."
I trust he, himself, has now been elevated.
My condolences to you.


Grieving, and sending a prayer. lou


just got back on abuzz after being off the computer for about 24
hours or so. i'm very sorry to hear of your loss.


What a beautiful name - Thomas Dunne. I only now know that this
is the birth name of "Himself."

I just learned of the death of Himself in the past few moments.
I responded to the words of another Abuzzer on this sad
happening. Then I discovered this thread posted by you - who was
his wife.

I often read Abuzz without responding - because sometimes I
simply like to read and learn. I often read the postings of
Himself - without responding to them because they were so
philosophical - so mystical - so poetic - I did not know how to
do them justice. So I simply read them and wondered who this
poetic person was.

As some people have mentioned - he was at the top of the class
where it came to Abuzzers. A very classy man - very elegant and
aristocratic in hiw musings on life and manner of expression.

He was such a poetic figure in his manner of expression - that I
imagined him as an Irish poet. And now that I know that he has
passed from this world to the next - I am wondering more about
the man "Thomas Dunne." I am wondering how he came to have such
a philosophical and poetic personality.

The response of fellow Abuzzers - the saddess felt by many -
seems to say that in a very strange way - people who contribute
on a regular basis to Abuzz become something of a family.

I have expressed things on Abuzz that I have never expressed to
members of my biological family - simply because when I have
tried -they haven't seemed to be that interested.

So people of like spirit - like mind - seek each other out in
Abuzz. And many people found upliftment of the spirit through the
poetic musings of Himself.

Thank you to you for sharing what you did about his life
and passing. The way you and he were treated by the hospital is
a very sad testament to the society we all struggle in these
days. I don't want to pursue that topic in this thread - because
I feel that Himself would wish all of us to focus on the
uplifting aspects of his life and passing. At least at this

And as I said on the other thread - I would guess that wherever
Himself is now - there is a part of him aware of the condolences
that are being expressed on his behalf today. And he might be
listening and watching all with that Irish humour of his.

Please accept my prayers and condolences. And please
accept my thanks for all that you contrbuted to the life of
Himself - that helped him in his quest to contribute to life as
he did.

He left quite a legacy in his writings. And he triggered a
respect for mystery in all of us who read his words.


My most sincere condlences.


True individual, never selling out on the conversation. His
unique witicisms will be missed as will Himself.



What sad news. I will miss Himself. I enjoyed both his "brogue"
style of writing and his more "usual" one. Living in Aurora,
CO, myself, I am beside myself that a Colorado hospital could be
so callous (not a strong enough word)!

My heartfeld condolences.


I adored Himself. He had a rare way with words. Abuzz will not
be the same.


I offer you my deepest sympathy on the death of your husband. I had seen his name from time to time on my abuzz travels
and thought that he always had something interesting to say.
I can't believe that someone was as uncaring to both you and he
as they would have to be to send him home with a blood sugar in
the high 300's. I too am a diabetic and know exactly what that
means. If you need someone to horsewhip these people, I happily
volunteer for the job.
Take care.


My prayers go to you. He was
one whose humor shone through some contentious debates.
I shall miss his brogue and wit.


I am deeply saddened to learn of this. I have always enjoyed "
Himself's" wit and wisdom and we will be the poorer now that he
is gone. I am shocked to hear of the treatment he received at
the hospital, how could they have been so heartless? I wish you
well and will keep you in my prayers. Peace.



On another thread devoted to our old friend Himself, several of
us mentioned that this evening (Friday) we will raise a glass in
toast and memory of this fine gentleman.

I'll be offering my toast at about 7:00 PM eastern time, but you
can adjust the time for your area. Please join us.


What thread?

I'll be there with a toast and a prayer. Smile

Here's the link to "An Irish Wake ~ Himself (Thomas Dunne)

I did not know your husband, however I think I came across him on
abuzz some time ago when I was under another pseudonym. It must
be a great loss to you and I wish you the PAX that himself would
have wished you.

god bless


Our prayers and thoughts are still with you as you are now
entering another emotional part of dealing with your loss.
Himself was beloved by all on Abuzz as is seen in the writings
from so many abuzzers... The hospital should most certainly be
investigated and even though I know that your loss can never be
righted - surely an investigation and whatever else it takes, may
hopefully prevent this from happening to anyone else.


My condolences on your terrible loss.


You have my sincere sympathy. I know hat it feels like since I
too was in the same situation with my husband. Nothin will bring
him back but a malpractice would make those who failed to care
for him think twice with the next patient. so if you can do it,
do it. It matters little when someone says, "He was 73 and was
going to die regardless." The point is the hosptal sent you home
without making an attempt to help him out. My prayers are with
you for our comfort. The only thing in life we can take with us
is a memory. The only thing we can leave behid on earth is a
memory. Sounds to me like you had some wonderful memories.
Cherish them. When something gets yoo down think of a wonderful
moment you shared to get you through it. God Bless....


I am saddened by your loss.
He was one of my favourites.

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Reply Sun 14 May, 2006 12:42 pm
I can't believe that I didn't notice this thread back in '04. I've read the first page and some on the other pages, and it's quite nice, edgar. I'll have to check back again.
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Reply Sun 14 May, 2006 12:51 pm
Thank you, smog.
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Reply Sun 14 May, 2006 02:10 pm
Without preamble he pummeled my belly with both fists.

I could almost feel the ripples of betrayal in my own belly..
Childrens fists are powerful on more levels then we can comprehend sometimes.

Edgar , all I can think to say is beautiful.
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Reply Sun 14 May, 2006 06:07 pm
Hi shewolfnm. Thanks for the compliment.
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Reply Sun 23 Jul, 2006 08:04 pm
Carol _____ checked on her mother, made sure she was fine. She said she had to go home then. The enfeebled old woman felt sad for her daughter, who was isolated and alone, mostly. She didn't know Carol had on her person a pistol. Moments later, the sound of a shot came through the door, loud, startling. She had committed suicide.

My wife and I met her through Mrs edgarblythe's sister. They worked at the same job. At the time, Carol was married to a truck driving man, a good guy who loved his family with all his heart. They had two sons, born out of her first marriage. The boys were half native Hawaiian.

At family gatherings, she could be the life of the party. At one such event, her one liners were coming in rapid succession, funnier than many a professional comedian's lines. I was mesmerized, for, comedians are among my favorite people. Without realizing my error, I slid into a chair near her, the object being not to miss a beat. She stopped in mid sentence when I did this. It was an awkward moment for me, as I beat a retreat to another part of the house. My inlaws have been an unforgiving lot toward me, and I knew that I was being condemned for making a move on this good woman. I felt that nothing I could do would redeem me in their eyes, and so waited for the incident to die down in the course of time.

Not long after that, I had occasion to witness her older son, a day or three after high school graduation. He voiced concern over his future, but became angry when people offered suggestions. I tried to make light of the situation when I saw how he was taking it. "Wait," I said, as he opened the door to go. "Let us tell you what to do." But, he left. A few months later, he put a gun to his temple and pulled the trigger.

Carol was the strong one in her family, we always felt.

The next few years, there were rifts between her and her sister. I never understood the sister's hostility.

Then, her husband died of cancer. We lost contact with her for a time. She worked for her brother-in-law, then was fired for no given reason.

We met her again at a July 4th party. She seemed well.

I suppose the isolation, the arbitrary cutting her out of her sister's life, added the final straws to her burden. The only family she had left was a grown daughter and her mother. I don't know how she felt the bad in life outweighed her ties to them. Only she could have known.
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