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Should I call CPS?????

 
 
Reply Sat 2 Nov, 2013 01:05 am
My Ex left out of town to Iowa for a hunting trip he left on october 18th and did not tell me he was going. We have joint physical and legal custody and the kids go to his school district, so he has them Monday-thursday during the week. I have them fri-Monday. The problem is he left them in the care of his girlfriend and did not even give me the option to take them while he was gone, which by the way he still is in Iowa. The problem is that when i did call him last night he said he did not have to inform me. I think is terrible. I also had the girlfriend tell me that my daughter had to come home early from my house so that she could do homework which was not done during the week. I am at my wits end. Any help on this would be appreciated.
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Sat 2 Nov, 2013 01:43 am
@carrieann1223,
Have the children been physically abused? Emotionally neglected? Spiritually tortured? From what you wrote here? I'd say no. From what you claim your ex had said? Sounds morally egregious but not something that should call for the authorities.

How did your children feel about being left alone with your ex's girlfriend? Are they neutral? Glad it happened? Hurt by it? If they felt somehow neglected by their father's absence then you should talk to the father to see if these hunting trips are going to be a regular habit. If so, you should see if the father is willing to change the custody period for whatever period of time that seems fair. If not a regular thing, you should see if the father could make it up to the children if they feel slighted.
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CoastalRat
 
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Reply Tue 5 Nov, 2013 02:16 pm
@carrieann1223,
He is STILL on his hunting trip? If so, I think you are within your rights to go pick up the kids and keep them until his return. The girlfriend is not their guardian. She has no rights to authorize medical treatment if there is an emergency. She is an unrelated individual whom your husband has handed your kids over to.

Of course, I am not a lawyer. So you might want to run the above advice past one first. But if it were me and I had an ex-wife running off on a long vacation and she left my kids with her boyfriend, I would have picked them up as soon as I was aware of it.

As for the homework thing, she has NO right to tell you that she is taking the daughter home early from your house in order to do homework. Of course, you need to see that she does the homework while she is with you, but she has no right to ever pick your kids up for any reason without his presence. (You can of course ALLOW her to pick them up without his presence, but you are under no obligation to turn your kids over to anyone other than him, as far as my limited legal knowledge is concerned.)

All of the above assumes you are not leaving out any important information.
roger
 
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Reply Tue 5 Nov, 2013 02:41 pm
@CoastalRat,
Perfect answer.
chai2
 
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Reply Tue 5 Nov, 2013 03:08 pm
@roger,
I concur.
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firefly
 
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Reply Wed 6 Nov, 2013 01:09 pm
@CoastalRat,
I agree.

This is not a matter for CPS, it is a custody issue.

The OP should contact her attorney for advice on how this matter should be handled, both now and in the future.
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