@cicerone imposter,
My usage of 'acceptance' is event-directed. It is the action (transgression) we initially judge/evaluate, then - the perpetrator's participation.
For instance - If someone tampers with a minor - We process OUR disgust of the event, then - the offender's participation.
We don't accept the offence - Nor the offender.
So, if the parent of hypothetical child chooses to accept the offence and offender - The issue need not endure a long while and give trauma longivety. To 'Accept' the transgression doesn't mean to overlook or define it - Just accept it occurred.
But to forgive the offence and/or offender is to sanction child abuse.
I conclude that 'forgiveness' is a misconception derived from 'acceptance'.