Oo, or you know what would be cooler? What if you left someone close to you with specific instructions to have you cremated, and then bake your ashes into the food served at the funeral. And you don't have them announce this until everyone has had their fill. At the end of the funeral you have them reveal this nasty secret in a big eerie speech about how you will live on as part of all of them.
If the coffin's rockin
Don't come knockin
How, about, Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go.
Seriously, I don't care for funeral dirges. I hope my funeral is a bit more upbeat with some rock and roll or the latest songs of the time.
On a related note, the Lovely Bride and I have already purchased our plot. Gave us a chance to literally dance on our grave.
Got to agree that funerals are more to provide closure for the survivors.
George wrote:On a related note, the Lovely Bride and I have already purchased our plot. Gave us a chance to literally dance on our grave.
Got to agree that funerals are more to provide closure for the survivors.
As someone who worked in cemetery sales, purchasing your grave sites pre-need is one of the most loving and considerate things you two could do for one another. I've seen surviving spouses come to the cemetery very distraught over the loss of their partner yet be forced to make hasty financial, emotional and permanent decisions about what their loved one would want. I wish more people would have the forethought that you and your wife have.
Got to credit my late father there. In fact, he had the whole thing pre-arranged: coffin, what type of ceremony, and all. I resolved to do the same thing.
George wrote:Got to credit my late father there. In fact, he had the whole thing pre-arranged: coffin, what type of ceremony, and all. I resolved to do the same thing.
Good for your dad George. He was obviously a man who loved and cared deeply about his family and that wonderful trait has been passed along to you.
I was going to go even further in my first response to your post and suggest that you also purchase your vault, open/close and casket pre-need. I held back because I didn't want to come across as a 'saleswoman' on the board. I always encourage people to purchase everything pre-need except the memorial because life/circumstances can, and often do, change. Besides, cemetery property and related items are just as prone to inflation as everything else! So, purchasing pre-need makes good economical sense as well!
For my own posthumous amusement:
I wish I had a Sylvia Plath
Busted tooth and a smile
And cigarette ashes in her drink
The kind that goes out and then sleeps for a week
The kind that goes out on her
To give me a reason, for well, I dunno
And maybe she'd take me to France
Or maybe to Spain and she'd ask me to dance
In a mansion on the top of a hill
She'd ash on the carpets
And slip me a pill
Then she'd get me pretty loaded on gin
And maybe she'd give me a bath
How I wish I had a Sylvia Plath
And she and I would sleep on a boat
And swim in the sea without clothes
With rain falling fast on the sea
While she was swimming away, she'd be winking at me
Telling me it would all be okay
Out on the horizon and fading away
And I'd swim to the boat and I'd laugh
I gotta get me a Sylvia Plath
And maybe she'd take me to France
Or maybe to Spain and she'd ask me to dance
In a mansion on the top of a hill
She'd ash on the carpets
And slip me a pill
Then she'd get me pretty loaded on gin
And maybe she'd give me a bath
How I wish I had a Sylvia Plath
I wish I had a Sylvia Plath
Or, if I were more serious, Over the rainbow by Eva Cassidy.
now that others have mentioned eva...i think Songbird would be a nice sentimental tune that could be played..she had such a powerful voice...great singer!
Heard one yesterday that would do for my little collection,
Lessee, so far,
Triumphal March from Aida, sort of kidding but not completely - well, some Verdi anyway, I like a lot of Verdi..
Callas' Alceste by Gluck. Trouble melding those first two, though.
Gabriel Faure's Requiem (parts of it)
and yesterday's Dame Janet Baker rendition of Elgar's Sea Pictures.
This sequence needs work.
I'm missing all my old latin jazz and rock and roll and blues here.
Hmm, what do I feel now about Van Morrison's Brown Eyed Girl... I sooo used to love it. Can I not have it at m'wake, or wake-ette? Yes, I think I am over it now, but just as I am over it, it has new piquance.
I notice we break down as a group into lyrics and sounds choices, for the most part.. I am mostly after sounds...
AND DID THOSE FEET IN ANCIENT TIME
Bring me my bow of burning gold
Bring me my arrows of desire !
Bring me my spear ! O clouds unfold !
Bring me my chariot of fire !
I will not cease from mental fight,
nor shall my sword sleep in my hand,
till we have built Jerusalem
in England's green and pleasant land.
William Blake (1757 - 1827)
truth
My ego wants everyone at my funderal to feel sad at my death, and that this sentiment would be fostered best by Albinoni's "Adagio". But I think I SHOULD prefer silence. Don't ask.
George wrote:
Got to agree that funerals are more to provide closure for the survivors.
I just wanted to hop in and agree too. Great way to word it.
#1 Robert Johnsons Crossroad Blues
I went to the crossroads, fell down on my knees
I went to the crossroads, fell down on my knees
Asked the Lord above, have mercy now, save poor Bob if you please
Standin' at the crossroads, tried to flag a ride
Whee-hee, I tried to flag a ride
Didn't nobody seem to know me, everybody pass me by
Standin' at the crossroads, risin' sun goin' down
Standin' at the crossroads baby, the risin' sun goin' down
I believe to my soul now, po' Bob is sinkin' down
You can run, you can run, tell my friend Willie Brown
You can run, you can run, tell my friend Willie Brown
That I got the crossroad blues this mornin', Lord, baby I'm sinkin' down
I went to the crossroad, mama, I looked east and west
I went to the crossroad, babe, I looked east and west
Lord, I didn't have no sweet woman, ooh well, babe, in my distress
"That Smell", Lynyrd Skynyrd
"Don't Fear the Reaper", Blue Oyster Cult
