f your a thinker and like a hard questions HELP?

Joey,

Do you realize that you are doing exactly what you are nervous about regarding a relationship with a woman?

Before anyone has even had a chance to get to know you, you're already putting up qualification barriers to eliminate all but those in your narrow focus. The responders to your questions must be thinkers, must like hard questions, must be single, must be able-bodied, and must be between ages 19 and 30?

Why not just accept helpful advice from anyone willing to share it with you regardless of all these obstacles you've placed in front of them?

There are people from all walks of life on A2K. Some don't fit into your narrow definition but may have experienced what you are wanting advice about.

No not at all the issue is (and I know your going to say there you go again) is that I have been told some very negative things and some very positive things by Friends and family both to both extremes I have had negative experiences(everybody has them disabaled or not :-) in the past so far nothing that positive in that department. im simply trying to find some kind of ground as to how to approach this

I personally think that most disabled people spoil it for themselves shooting themselves in the foot they cant stand on so to speak much like you thourght was/(am not) doing with my Question

Im simply trying to gage for from you (everybody has a different opinion on this and thats ok :-) Would I have to try harder for a women to see me in that way eg a Relationship and or Sex *Because (not me) but the majority of disabled People are cynical warped and moany from the off so therefore you would not want to be around anyone like that.

So therefore would this approach make a difference

1) Forgetting my past experiences and negative thoughts about myself and supposed beliefs of others about my disability

2) If people/Women feel the need to pity me with “aww’s” and sentences like “
I Feel sorry for you’re a great person” unrequired help (Only to an point where it gets silly) I’m well aware of the difference being nice and being way over the top.

“I would be like haha what are you on about I’m the same as you just maybe get about some a different way” and only talk about my disability when they bring it up. Putting straight any silly ideas/myths they have about me quickly as they arise

3) just be outgoing and fun as if I don’t see it and they wont

Or would the chair still be an issue

Well I'm not able to open your other question, it keeps saying topic not found so I don't know what your disability is but from what I understand here it's a physical disabily I.e paralasys if it is then my answer would be
First ignore what women think, you need to overcome your disability and belive that, even if it's challenging, you can live a normal happy and full life.
Whether disabled or not a woman can't accept you if you can't accept yourself
If you do that then you may find a woman who's reaction is admiration rather than pity
But that's just my opinion I think if some women answer you they might be able to help u out