Yes, language is important.
Important only as a utility, not as a literal existence.
Communication is important, but not as a literal living experience.
All dysfunction in miscommunication is rooted in this single error.
The Listener becomes offended because he believes that what he experienced is what the speaker intended.
In communication, not even emotions are conveyed.
It's more like a filter than anything else,
Narrowing down the options.
I love you,
Means that I'm not silent and passive, but am intending to convey something.
It also eliminates all contradicting possibilities as options,
And finally, the Listener creates a positive emotion, appreciating being loved
as unique as how his face looks,
Based on a self generated statement
Reflecting the matching words, he perceived.