Since its in her name do I have to let her keep it, or can I make her sell the place and split it 50-50. Or does she get to keep the house and I get nothing?
That statement probably explains why you are divorcing. It's all about what you get and nothing about her or even a shared concern.
You've been paying on the place for 2 years?
1. Is there even any equity in the house since home values have been so depressed? I wouldn't be surprised if the home is worth less than you paid for it.
2. Depending on the value of the house, 2 years of payments is probably about $3000 of principal payments. Unless you personally contributed a huge chunk of cash to a down payment, you are arguing that $1500 is worth more than trying to be amicable.