@Cyracuz,
Cyracuz wrote:
Enlightenment is knowing the difference between loving and owning someone. If you love someone, how can they hurt you? Not half as many ways as if you try to own them. Your love is yours, it does not belong to the person you direct it towards. If that person wants to leave you and be with someone else, why does that hurt? Who is the love directed towards, to make such a thing hurt? Not the person who leaves, but the one who is left; yourself. If you love someone who wants to leave, seeing them happy with someone they want to be with should make you happy. If it doesn't, it's not love for that person you feel the strongest, but love for yourself.
You make a very good point with wise words.
One type of 'Mahayana' Buddhist meditation is on 'Loving Kindness' where the one (as an unenlightened being in the conventional sense) imitates the qualities of a Buddha by developing loving kindness firstly towards one's mother then gradually extends this outwards to less obvious recipients such as enemies e.g. they see you for some reason as the enemy. Eventually one develops it to include all sentient beings without exception. So, one includes everyone but also of course one simultaneously excludes no one. This helps because one can settle non-conceptually after this by just ceasing to exclude anyone.
It's said that loving kindness is the channel that true compassion can flow through. This is one of the preliminary practices required before making the wish to become a fully realized Buddha for the sake of all sentient beings. All this is conventional truth teachings the help through the 'imitation' of the qualities of a Buddha. We naturally have these qualities but they are just covered up (or ignored) at present.
Your post could be classed within this type of meditation technique. Excellent for broken relationships of any kind.