Eva wrote:(Oh, and there is no such thing as "dropping out of the rat race," msolga. I've tried. No matter what kind of group you're in, there are always people who seem to exist for the sole purpose of irritating others.)
Ain't that the truth! I have pretty much dropped out, but there is this one accursed committee, pretty much as dysfunctional as they get. I joined it to meet people, have fun. Hah!! I'm now stuck between a rock and a hard place. The rock is that as I surveyed the disorganization and ineptitude, I vowed to do my part and that is it. I tend to take over in these situations, fix what I feel needs to be fixed, and thereby get involved up to my eyeballs in things I really don't need to get involved in. My New Year's resolution this year was "Not my problem."
So while I had some breaches, such as effectively taking on complete responsibility for the website (which Craven put enormous amounts of effort into, both in creating and then teaching me how to update it, thanks again Craven), I have kept my mouth shut on several thousand occasions where I saw potential problems, things were being handled badly, etc. Not my problem.
Well, the hard place is that since I have been careful not to take everything on -- yes, I need to know about the workshops so I can use that info to solicit sponsors, but I'll just let _____ do it, I won't pressure her, I'll ask just once or twice -- things SUCK in terms of tools for getting sponsorships and I'm not doing so well. I could do more, I could do better, but I don't want this whole thing on my back. So keeping up boundaries (best as I can) has also meant that I'm plain not doing a very good job. Which I HATE. Ms. Perfectionist incarnate. Arrrghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!