tryingtohelp wrote:I am just steaming right now for getting "YELLED" at for something I did which was agreed upon by the other party. Even though I reminded them of this. So, after yelling at me this person said I was getting screwed by some others I do things for and I do not charge them. So, if I am getting screwed then this person is also getting screwed is what I was told.
I was told I was too nice.
That pisses me off because I will decide what I charge if I do charge for work I perform. Also, if I want to be nice I am going to. I am not going to stop being nice because I was told to.
btw the work is not sexual or anything like that. It involves paper and my time, boring things.
Sorry I missed this post earlier, tth.
And sorry you're having a rotten time of it at work.
Sometimes it seems so
unreasonable that we have to endure truly shitty work situations just to live. There should be an easier way, that's what I think! :wink:
Thank you msolga. The sad part is I was not talking about work (sorry about that). I was talking about my spouse.
On second thought that is work.
tryingtohelp wrote:Thank you msolga. The sad part is I was not talking about work (sorry about that). I was talking about my spouse.
On second thought that is work.
Good grief, I think the heat must have gone to my head, tth!
Let me go back & read your post again, OK?
Oh, but spouse problems can really pull the rug out from under you, can't they? (Been there, done that!)
Grrrr!
I have just connected cable internet....only to find it cutting out constantly.
When I bought it, I talked for a long time with the fella about it, and any problems which might occur.
I learned about cable TV and other phonelines as problems, and dealt with them (I don't have cable TV anyway)
Now, it cuts out all the time, and NOW they tell me that a burglar alarm, with the potential to be monitored, even if it has never been set up, is hardwired into the phone line, and interferes.
(It was in the fine print, I was told, when I said that nobody had mentioned it...well, mea culpa, but why not tell me when I asked about any possible problems???!!!)
So...now I have to pay a fortune fpr an electrician to fix it, and take time off work, because electricians only do this stuff 9 to 5 weekdays. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
OK, just read your post again, tth.
Whatever your spouse makes of your difficulties, yelling at you is not helpful. It just undermines you even more, when you're probably not feeling too fantastic about yourself & the situation he's yelling about, already. Does that make sense?
I don't like yelling much as a form of communication, anyway. It is rarely helpful when really, what a person might need is support & some understanding. And perhaps some useful strategies, if that's what you were looking for.
msolga wrote:OK, just read your post again, tth.
Whatever your spouse makes of your difficulties, yelling at you is not helpful. It just undermines you even more, when you're probably not feeling too fantastic about yourself & the situation he's yelling about, already. Does that make sense?
I don't like yelling much as a form of communication, anyway. It is rarely helpful when really, what a person might need is support & some understanding. And perhaps some useful strategies, if that's what you were looking for.
msolga you make sense. We have been married for many years and I think this is only the 2nd time he has actually yelled at me. It gets kind of complicated because I just told him I do not want to be married anymore.
Now he won't acknowledge that I even said it or talk to me about it.
dlowan wrote:Grrrr!
I have just connected cable internet....only to find it cutting out constantly.
When I bought it, I talked for a long time with the fella about it, and any problems which might occur.
I learned about cable TV and other phonelines as problems, and dealt with them (I don't have cable TV anyway)
Now, it cuts out all the time, and NOW they tell me that a burglar alarm, with the potential to be monitored, even if it has never been set up, is hardwired into the phone line, and interferes.
(It was in the fine print, I was told, when I said that nobody had mentioned it...well, mea culpa, but why not tell me when I asked about any possible problems???!!!)
So...now I have to pay a fortune fpr an electrician to fix it, and take time off work, because electricians only do this stuff 9 to 5 weekdays. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Crikey, Deb, I'd be GRRRRRRRRRRRing, too, If I'd been through all that with the fellow you spoke to. You got bad advice!
You'd have a telecommunications ombudsman in SA, yes?
I'd discuss the situation with them, first, before committing yourself to new costs.
These folk in Victoria were
terrific in helping me resolve some problems with my IS provider. And they were swift!
(I was
wondering where you were!)
msolga wrote:dlowan wrote:Grrrr!
I have just connected cable internet....only to find it cutting out constantly.
When I bought it, I talked for a long time with the fella about it, and any problems which might occur.
I learned about cable TV and other phonelines as problems, and dealt with them (I don't have cable TV anyway)
Now, it cuts out all the time, and NOW they tell me that a burglar alarm, with the potential to be monitored, even if it has never been set up, is hardwired into the phone line, and interferes.
(It was in the fine print, I was told, when I said that nobody had mentioned it...well, mea culpa, but why not tell me when I asked about any possible problems???!!!)
So...now I have to pay a fortune fpr an electrician to fix it, and take time off work, because electricians only do this stuff 9 to 5 weekdays. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Crikey, Deb, I'd be GRRRRRRRRRRRing, too, If I'd been through all that with the fellow you spoke to. You got bad advice!
You'd have a telecommunications ombudsman in SA, yes?
I'd discuss the situation with them, first, before committing yourself to new costs.
These folk in Victoria were
terrific in helping me resolve some problems with my IS provider. And they were swift!
(I was
wondering where you were!)
It WAS in the fine print...so they are guiltless legally.
I really thought I had looked at it properly, too.
Thing is, my alarm has never been connected for monitoring, so I had no idea it could cause a problem.
tryingtohelp wrote:msolga wrote:OK, just read your post again, tth.
Whatever your spouse makes of your difficulties, yelling at you is not helpful. It just undermines you even more, when you're probably not feeling too fantastic about yourself & the situation he's yelling about, already. Does that make sense?
I don't like yelling much as a form of communication, anyway. It is rarely helpful when really, what a person might need is support & some understanding. And perhaps some useful strategies, if that's what you were looking for.
msolga you make sense. We have been married for many years and I think this is only the 2nd time he has actually yelled at me. It gets kind of complicated because I just told him I do not want to be married anymore.
Now he won't acknowledge that I even said it or talk to me about it.
That adds another level of complication, it certainly does! :wink:
He's angry with you. Rightly or wrongly he's angry.
And he chose your work situation to express his anger.
It sounds like a cliche, but some counselling might not be a bad idea?
dlowan wrote:Grrrr!
I have just connected cable internet....only to find it cutting out constantly.
When I bought it, I talked for a long time with the fella about it, and any problems which might occur.
I learned about cable TV and other phonelines as problems, and dealt with them (I don't have cable TV anyway)
Now, it cuts out all the time, and NOW they tell me that a burglar alarm, with the potential to be monitored, even if it has never been set up, is hardwired into the phone line, and interferes.
(It was in the fine print, I was told, when I said that nobody had mentioned it...well, mea culpa, but why not tell me when I asked about any possible problems???!!!)
So...now I have to pay a fortune fpr an electrician to fix it, and take time off work, because electricians only do this stuff 9 to 5 weekdays. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Say what?? Burglar alarms are hardwired into your phone line but that should have nothing to do with cable internet. That is a separate cable that has nothing to do with the phone line. The only hookup with internet that may be phone related is dial up that I am aware of. That does not sound right dlowan. (Tryagain=
that is another talent of mine-burglar alarms)
msolga wrote:dlowan wrote:Grrrr!
I have just connected cable internet....only to find it cutting out constantly.
When I bought it, I talked for a long time with the fella about it, and any problems which might occur.
I learned about cable TV and other phonelines as problems, and dealt with them (I don't have cable TV anyway)
Now, it cuts out all the time, and NOW they tell me that a burglar alarm, with the potential to be monitored, even if it has never been set up, is hardwired into the phone line, and interferes.
(It was in the fine print, I was told, when I said that nobody had mentioned it...well, mea culpa, but why not tell me when I asked about any possible problems???!!!)
So...now I have to pay a fortune fpr an electrician to fix it, and take time off work, because electricians only do this stuff 9 to 5 weekdays. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Crikey, Deb, I'd be GRRRRRRRRRRRing, too, If I'd been through all that with the fellow you spoke to. You got bad advice!
You'd have a telecommunications ombudsman in SA, yes?
I'd discuss the situation with them, first, before committing yourself to new costs.
These folk in Victoria were
terrific in helping me resolve some problems with my IS provider. And they were swift!
(I was
wondering where you were!)
It WAS in the fine print...so they are guiltless legally.
I really thought I had looked at it properly, too.
Thing is, my alarm has never been connected for monitoring, so I had no idea it could cause a problem.
dlowan wrote:msolga wrote:dlowan wrote:Grrrr!
I have just connected cable internet....only to find it cutting out constantly.
When I bought it, I talked for a long time with the fella about it, and any problems which might occur.
I learned about cable TV and other phonelines as problems, and dealt with them (I don't have cable TV anyway)
Now, it cuts out all the time, and NOW they tell me that a burglar alarm, with the potential to be monitored, even if it has never been set up, is hardwired into the phone line, and interferes.
(It was in the fine print, I was told, when I said that nobody had mentioned it...well, mea culpa, but why not tell me when I asked about any possible problems???!!!)
So...now I have to pay a fortune fpr an electrician to fix it, and take time off work, because electricians only do this stuff 9 to 5 weekdays. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Crikey, Deb, I'd be GRRRRRRRRRRRing, too, If I'd been through all that with the fellow you spoke to. You got bad advice!
You'd have a telecommunications ombudsman in SA, yes?
I'd discuss the situation with them, first, before committing yourself to new costs.
These folk in Victoria were
terrific in helping me resolve some problems with my IS provider. And they were swift!
(I was
wondering where you were!)
It WAS in the fine print...so they are guiltless legally.
I really thought I had looked at it properly, too.
Thing is, my alarm has never been connected for monitoring, so I had no idea it could cause a problem.
But if the fellow was
aware of your alarm system & assured you things would
still be OK, I think it's worth a call on Monday morning anyway, Deb.
The
worst that can happen is that you'll learn very quickly that you have no rights in this situation.
I have a feeling,
if he assured you that the alarm system was no problem, that you'll get a sympathetic hearing, at the vey least.
I had a "fine print" type of situation, too. A completely different set of circumstances, to do with the manner of account payment to my ISP. They withdrew some money from my bank account (because the "fine print" said they could!) without informing me.
Technically they were correct, but the consumer folk were right in there on my behalf! We sorted them out,
pronto!
dlowan look back one page to what I posted. I do not see what internet cable has to do with the phone line. The internet cable is a separate line unless they are using a line for both the phone and cable that are connected together. Normally cable internet lines have nothing to do with the phone line. The phone line is totally separate. One way you might be able to tell how they connected it is can you use your phone and computer at the same time? If not, then it is dial up. If you can then they interconnected them instead of using a total separate cable line. It sounds like you wanted a totally separate cable line.
tryingtohelp wrote:dlowan look back one page to what I posted. I do not see what internet cable has to do with the phone line. The internet cable is a separate line unless they are using a line for both the phone and cable that are connected together. Normally cable internet lines have nothing to do with the phone line. The phone line is totally separate. One way you might be able to tell how they connected it is can you use your phone and computer at the same time? If not, then it is dial up. If you can then they interconnected them instead of using a total separate cable line. It sounds like you wanted a totally separate cable line.
Nah...I knew ther ewas some sort of interconnection, since I knew I had to buy filters for the phonelines.
I am not always right but, if your alarm is not monitored I cannot think of a reason it would interfere with the internet. There would be no signal from your alarm when you set it or turn it off to go through your phone line since it is not being transmitted to the alarm company.
I hope you can get it straightened out and get what you wanted and asked for without further expense on your part. It just does not sound right to me.
dlowan wrote:tryingtohelp wrote:dlowan look back one page to what I posted. I do not see what internet cable has to do with the phone line. The internet cable is a separate line unless they are using a line for both the phone and cable that are connected together. Normally cable internet lines have nothing to do with the phone line. The phone line is totally separate. One way you might be able to tell how they connected it is can you use your phone and computer at the same time? If not, then it is dial up. If you can then they interconnected them instead of using a total separate cable line. It sounds like you wanted a totally separate cable line.
Nah...I knew ther ewas some sort of interconnection, since I knew I had to buy filters for the phonelines.
Oh, okay that would make more sense then. Thanks.
I have to stop telling my many talents (Tryagain=
) or else you guys just might be able to figure out what it is I do.
Oy!
Did I also mention my car broke down AGAIN yesterday!!!!????
Last time, I was on my way to do some training!
I had had the battery replaced, and it was flat again. When the RAA came out, I said there must be a charging problem, but they said there wasn't. (Turns out it is intermittent to be fair to them) so they just gave me another battery, since the one I had bought from them a couple of weeks before was under warranty.
So..yesterday, I am driving (in intense heat) to a meeting.
I notice the airconditioning and fan are very weak, and the radio is faulty when I am stationary.
I turn off aircon and radio.
I am at a huge intersection, turning right.....I see a wee gap and go for it.....car moves at about a mile an hour!!!! I am now in front of 3 lines of fast moving traffic, which have right of way and moving acrsss their right of way at a mile an hour, praying the car will not stall.
I feel like the Queen, since so many kind drivers are waving at me, and calling out to me! Some are even making V for Victory signs (I think.....I am sweating and have fogged up my glasses).
The car eventually crawls out of their way, and begins to pick up speed.
I get to where I am going, knowing the car will now not start, and I will have a long wait for the RAA, so I park in the shade, in a disabled spot, with malice aforethought.
I have remained calm and cheerful.
I have just received backpay, with which i was going to rid myself of a chunk of debt, but at least I know I can probably afford to fix the car!
I go in to my meeting. Wrong day. I had not been informed of the change.
I am STILL calm and cheerful.
I wait for the RAA.
They come, start car, detect alternator fault, and I set off the many mies to my repair company, with no air con or fan, in the heat.
I am STILL calm and cheerful. Really, I am proud of myself by now>
I get to repair place, and arrange to have car fixed.
A taxi is called.
I have clients to see, I am in a hurry. This is the most timid, SLOW cabbie I have ever been driven by. The journey takes at least twice as long as it should, but he is so timid (clearly a new migrant and a new taxi driver) that I dare not say anything, as I know he will panic.
NOW I am stressed! I get so frustrated and peed off that all my previous equanimity and calm is gone! I am hot, red, and frazzled by the time I get back to work.
One day, I shall be able to maintain the zen through the slow taxi. Ommmmmmmmmmmmm.....
I am not saying a thing. I just did though.
You have a great sense of humor.
I sure hope they did not tell you that your tires needed new air or your headlight fluid is low and needs more put in them and that halogen is better for them and if you have 2 transmissions you might get better gas mileage.
Okay, I know a little about cars too.
I'm just posting this to stave of the inevitable grimace and gritting of teeth associated with getting in a bath that you know from the toe-test isn't quite hot enough...and then I have to:
Put a deposit on the carpets
Go to the DIY store and buy wallpaper and paste
Buy a bed
Buy curtains
Finish packing here
Take heater and chairs to the new place
Worry about Rocky's whereabouts
Pity me...
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