I also agree with a lot of what you're saying.
I'm another one who's chosen work, though. I always planned to be a stay-at-home mom for at least a while, and saved half my salary for a year before my daughter was born so that I could.
I started going stir-crazy from not working about a month into it. Found a job pretty quickly -- flexible, telecommuting job, but a job.
We were definitely not well-off, especially because we'd decided to try to not touch my savings and use it as a down payment on a house (we were still renting at the time). So any money helped, for sure.
But we were also OK, and if we got less than OK we had some savings to dip into. So I didn't have
to work, and in fact went to some effort to ensure that I wouldn't.
But I don't do well when I'm not working. I have a need to accomplish things, help out, make a difference, and household "accomplishments" get old fast.
I also have been doing a ton of volunteer work throughout, either at the same time as paid work or when I haven't had paid work (I've worked at intervals but not continuously).
And I've been offered a few full-time jobs I've really seriously considered because they sounded fun. (But decided not to do until sozlet's older.)
My husband now makes enough for the three of us to live off of fine, not rolling in it but certainly comfortable. I'm still doing both paid work and volunteering up the wazoo, though. (I'm trying to cut back on the volunteering, mixed results so far.)
I try to remain aware of how lucky I am to have these choices.
Anyway, I agree with you and Osso that I don't really see this as a general thing, that people dislike work because it's work. I know a lot of people, in a wide range of jobs and situations, who all get satisfaction from their work.
I do think balance
is important. If I work too much without play, my efficiency and creativity take a nosedive. If I play too much without work, I get really blah and dull and unmotivated, and that can snowball in a bad way. So I need some of each.