@The Pentacle Queen,
Yeah, maybe you could call them 'narratives of attachment'.
I don't think Barthes was talking about your deeper sense of love, JL, but the 'attached' lover.
I don't seem to view attachments the same as other people on this forum.
I see attachments as a necessary part of life that makes life more efficient, so it is not the attachment I have an issue with - but rather with the belief that the attachment is reality. Once you realise attachments are just there to serve a purpose, but aren't reality...then attachments become useful, but not something worth having a conflict over.
Attachments can also be used to achieve a great deal of good. One example for me - I'm finding that the very way we speak has a particular pattern to it...so in revers I can execute this pattern and that pattern produces a particular quality of voice without actually feeling the 'feeling' that goes with the voice. I can now at will produce a 'warm' voice without actually feeling warmth, just by 'executing' this pattern. The same goes for a passionate voice, a dispassionate voice, a determined voice, a submissive voice or a commanding voice...I'm finding different patterns as I go. due to the nature of the patterns, the phrase 'a well rounded person' now has more meaning.
The point of this isn't to manipulate people without feeling whatever it is I am exhibiting...but rather to understand what I am doing and how...which allows me to train/ingrain the patterns (ie form attachments, as all patterns executed subconsciously are attachments) for more effective use when appropriate. This attachment also activates even if I consciously 'activate' the pattern, because the conscious part is activating it...if it's properly ingrained, then the 'how' is subconscious (like handwriting - what you write is conscious, while how you write is subconscious)
The way I see it - done right, attachments vastly improve our lives. The problem is most of us have let our attachments develop haphazardly, with no sense of purpose to them, and little sense of perspective to them.