I have been married for a few years now. I love my wife dearly. Our sex life is good. I have a foot fetish. I like to receive a foot job while she wears stockings. She has done this for me a few times now, but she really doesn't enjoy it she has complained while she has done it before and she thinks it is weird, She also doesn't let me finish while she is doing it, this is something I would really like to do.
To be married to someone who compromises.. You say you have a good sex life, only she's not as adventurous as you would have liked her to have been and you thought that she would change.
People do not change, they can compromise and she obviously has done that for you a few times, do you really think that you will therefore, accept it as a once off from somewhere else? Once you get that fetish full-filled yet again? I don't.
I agree, this is something that you have to ask your wife permission for and I'm betting that would hurt her feelings given that she has, in the past, compromised for you...
I also think that you knew what she would and wouldn't do before you married her, therefore, you chose her for her, so I hope you are not blaming her in your mind for not being your sexual equal.
I also agree that there are alot of men that will not go down on a woman, or touch her, as much as there are alot of women who will not touch a mans penis, or go down on him...
I also think alot has to do with how you treat a person. If they are a sex object, and/or feel that it's all about you, there is nothing in it for them, no emotional attachment, it's a chore... If they feel loved, with horny adventure thrown in sometimes, it becomes a gift.
You don't say how you treat your wife, what you do for her.
The best teacher always makes a woman feel sexy, wanted, beautiful and loved and in that, often compromises more...
As he does for her.