@JLNobody,
Quote:Vikorr, other terms would be clinging, grasping, craving, dependence, addiction, etc. You're right, "attachment" sounds so innocuous.
Hi JL, in a way it is innocuous. 'Attachment' is correct, but has multiple applications to our lives - which can lead to confusion about whether it is good or bad (either, depending on context). Other words like you have used can serve - or be added for clarity, before summising them as 'attachments'.
Quote:Good point. You make a semantic refinement. But in the case of Buddhism, most famous for denouncing "attachments", their referent is not exactly the same as yours. I guess Buddhists should use a term more to their point, something like fixating or grasping. I certainly prefer non-attachment to detachment. I would not want to be detached from life, but I don't like the grasping that causes so much frustration and blocks the flow of an open perception.
Yes, I agree that buddhists mean it slightly different to the frame of reference I was using. However, I see many people here who use it not too dissimilar to what I’m talking about, without realising just how dependant our lives are on ‘attachments’. The point being – the nature of attachments needs to be understood – some are very useful in our lives, while others hinder us. Understanding and using our attachments in the right way actually increases the quality of our life, as does releasing attachments that do not serve us anymore.
Quote:However, it is often the case that people's minds become "attached" is certain ways that cause them trouble, suffering and pain. People become attached to certain interpretations of and ways of thinking about themselves and life that end up hindering them in certain ways, causing problems for them.
In such a case, trying to free ourselves from such attachments would a good thing, with the aim of trying to alter the attachments in such a way that benefit us, and change us, rather than cause us problems.
Hi EP, yes this is true. The point of attachments I make is rather that they serve a purpose in our lives. See my above reply to JL.
In relation to emotional reaction to an event (say conflict) that no longer serves them well – if you’ve ever noticed someone attempt to change that type of reaction - they often have great difficulty, even if they understand the flaw in their reaction.
This is because when they experience a ‘trigger’ situation, the mind runs an automatic program. This ‘program’ is a process the mind goes through in a split second, and you will find that it is always a consistent process for the ‘trigger’ situation. The outcome on the other hand, can differ slightly dependant on the stimuli received.
A trigger situation by the way, can be generic, as in ‘how you handle conflict’, ‘how you handle stress’, ‘whether you get drained or enlivened by socialising’, ‘what occurs when you think of approaching a very attractive stranger’, etc. Or the trigger situation can be very specific.
The point of this is that the problem with peoples ‘attachments’ is that it is not just an 'attachment' working in isolation from the mind. Those 'attachments' can trigger automatic processes in the mind, and automatic processes in the mind can trigger 'attachments'. In simplified terms, it works much the same way as when a object we see triggers language (a name for the object) and language can trigger a picture of the object.
So 'problems' can occur in either the automatic process, or the emotional attachment, or both...meaning that it's often a case of not just the ‘attachment’ that needs to be released, but the ‘automatic process’ that needs to be changed (as stated before, an automatic process is a form of 'attachment' itself), before true 'change' can occur.