@littlek,
Good for you!
Sometimes an ultimatum is the only way to go. But it also sounds like they are trying to give you good customer service, and that's an important consideration in terms of where to purchase a hearing aid. Wanting to get things right for you should be their primary concern, and it sounds like they are trying.
Before reading this thread, I never realized how difficult it can be to find the right hearing aid, and make all the proper adjustments, given the variety of factors that enter into hearing losses, and how individual this is for each person. I really have a new found appreciation for how complex this can be, and I'm always happy when I learn something that way.
But, given how complex all of this can be, a 30 day trial period is way too short--and your case seems to be a perfect example of that. It's not fair to the consumer, and I'm not even sure its that fair to the distributor/seller either. I suppose some people can have all the adjustments done, and the problems sorted out, in 30 days, but that might not be the case for a great many people--it is a process that does involve trial and error and time to live with the hearing aids.
So, why on earth does this 30 day trial period seem to be sort of an industry-wide standard? Is there a way of addressing this issue to effect some sort of change--like consumers demanding at least a 60 day trial period on all hearing aids sold? That would even give the seller more time to try alternatives, make changes, make adjustments, etc. rather than to have to take the hearing aids back, or leave an unhappy consumer with expensive hearing aids that don't do the job properly or which might wind up unused in a drawer.
So, I'm very happy for you, littlek, that you will have more time to try to get things worked out. The important thing is that they do everything possible to resolve the problems you're having. And I really do hope that they can resolve all the problems.