@jenfargo83,
May I first suggest that you stop swallowing your pride? You're allowed to be human, you do know that? You're allowed to have flaws, and you allowed to be hurt. You're allowed to be angry. Strangely enough you can be angry and still be respectful - most people just have to learn where that place is (usually it occurs only after you take responsibility for your feelings, and why you feel that way). May I ask why someone elses emotions are more important than yours?
Secondly, if your relationship is respectful and she knows you're still hurting, then she won't ask her new boyfriend to come with her.
It sounds like it's no longer her residence, which means you can bar who you like from the property. But if it is still her residence, she can invite over who she likes.