Mentally Photoshopping Woman

Thank you Pronounce. I have never been sorry I chose the profession that I did- I've always found it fun and extremely rewarding.

Again, you're very perceptive. The hard part for me IS maintaining distance - I constantly have to remind myself that I can only be effective if I remain as objective as I can.

But yeah - it's definitely a balancing act and every day is an education.

The other day I was having a conversation with one of the guys who's a lifer - I'm not allowed to ask what crime they've commmitted, so unless they tell me - I don't know. I mentioned to someone after he left the room, having given us a really interesting lesson on the English Reformation, that he was a nice guy. The guy answered back - 'Yeah - really nice for a murderer.'

It made me think. If I were to read about a person who'd committed a murder, I'd probably come up with a very one-dimensional picture of what I believed that person to be in my head. Whereas meeting someone and then finding out that they'd murdered someone (and I don't know how or why or what the circumstances were) gives you a whole different slant and viewpoint.

It's very confusing. I don't want to get addled by it. I have to keep thinking it through.

Anyway -your job sounds interesting too. Do you enjoy it?

I work for a not-for-profit educational institution whose primary clients are people from poor countries. When I was hired, two years, ago it was thought that we'd be able to cover the costs of running a school with tuitions. We've since learned that we can't cover the operating costs in America and charge our students the required tuition. Our work is too critical (cross-cultural training) to stop, and so we've cut costs beyond what can feasibly support the infrastructure of the school. It is for this reason I'm self supported. Meaning I have to raise support, or earn it, to work here. The raising of support is better suited to someone who has better salesmanship than I do. So I've been living off a diminishing grant for the past two years now, but that is due to run out in December, and now I'm faced with looking for additional employment to compensate.

Been there myself, stretched it out for 10 years, just couldn't do it anymore after that

just imagine them nude =p

That does sound important and rewarding. I hope it works out- for your sake and for the students. Maybe someone with some sense will intervene at the last minute. You should write Bill Gates - I mean it couldn't hurt could it? Good luck.

Thank you, aidan, I believe it will work out, but maybe not they way I envisioned it.

I might last shorter than that, but I hope not.

What could a woman do to stop you from imagining her in the nude? I assume you don't imagine every woman in the nude, and so what is the key thing about that person that causes you to visualize them in the nude?

Is this not what beer does?

How the hell does a "tough drug dealer" know these sizes? Did he also do B&Es and check out womens' wardrobes.

I think drinking beer causes the person to photoshop themselves.

Good point.

The interesting thing about the size-judging is that they were really accurate. I looked at the guard they were discussing later and I'd bet she was a perfect 14 - which is what they said.

These guys are very astute and observant and display a lot of mental acuity- traits that are necessary in their 'job'. Many of the people who deal drugs don't use - otherwise they'd be squandering the product and the profits- so their judgment isn't clouded by substances. It's too bad they can't take those skills/inborn traits and apply them constructively.

I think they gain the knowledge about dress sizes by observing their girlfriends- what's amazing to me is that all the guys I talk to have a 'Mrs.' and kids! What girl in her right mind would marry and have kids with a drug dealer?!

I am pretty sure that the Brits don't punish families of drug dealers like America does. Here we will take everything they have including the house, and are very unhelpfully when the family then tries to go on the program formally known as welfare, and we arrest the spouse on some trumped up charge of facilitating to boot.

What is the downside of having a a drug dealing husband in England?

1) How about - He spends a lot of time in jail? Isn't that a downside? I guess maybe not for some though , depending on their husband and how much they like having him around.

From what I gather, these guys get a prison sentence and they take everything they can that has been bought with the proceeds of their criminal activity - so the woman very well may lose the house, the car, etc., etc.

I guess it is true though that if someone is homeless and has children in England , the local council does provide a place for them to live - so they're not necessarily out on the streets once their drug-funded housing is taken.

XD

I hate when aiden joins my forums, because she's way more interesting than I am, and I can't keep it on topic.

;p