transgender

I am trying with all my might and main to care... Love is what makes marriages... All the rest is formal nonsense...

I agree. I see marriage as the organization of lust in the context of love, or the reverse. It's a way to structure the animal urge in a way that contributes to a more sublime union. I can conceive of a lustless marriage working, but not of a marriage without tenderness.

Marriage as a form does structure, and organize, as does all forms of relationship, which includes all forms... But; the structure is like the skeleton, or the shell of an arthropod, and the relationship is like the meat, the life of the relationship... And you can understand each through the other, and judge the quality of a relationship by the form, and judge the form by the relationship...If people have an informal relationship that works it is better than all the formal relationships that do not work, which is most of them at any given time...People suffer their forms one day, and celebrate them the next, but if they do not work they do not work, and are like humpty dumpty, beyond repair...

Marriages work for some, but hardly for all... If your relationship is good without marriage, without the form; why bother???

To be honest, I only "discovery" that there are transgender people in the past 5 years from porn. I think with modern medical advances, transgenders look very much like real women. Do you think there will be a time when it is possible to marry a transgender person?