A bit wide ranging and vague, so I'll try and focus on one aspect of your post. The question of identity- Russian, American, man and woman- all of which you dismissed as artificial categories. But in doing so you have made a fundamental mistake about the nature of language and reality. Our understanding of the world comes through our senses and we see paterns and meaning that we attempt to express through symbols- this is language in its broadest sense- including speech, painting, music- a medium for meaning. These meanings are artificial in the sense that we are symbolising things- inevitably imperfect- but that which we symbolise is, and symbols are our window into the world, our grasp on reality, our interpretation and understanding of reality. There is somthing true and inherant in being a man or a woman- even if we express that nature imperfectly- and there is somthing true, if not inherant, in having a national identity- it is part of our self expression, of our interaction and connection with other people, the landscape, society, history and culture.
How long shall we believe in ideas we have of ourselves and of others? What can be more stupid than to say: I am that: American, Russian, animal, man, woman etc., etc? Is it not evident that all those names are utterly irrelevant? Society instills in us belief that we are that and we start trying to correspond with those patterns.
First of all, I cannot be anything just because everything exist only because I perceive that. So to call oneself certain thing: animal, biochemical organism is inappropriate. Rather I am one who perceives that.
Other those definitions deal with ideas of what they call the highest good. We are so stuffed with those psychologies which told us: You should live in harmony with your unconscious, otherwise your life will live in a constant conflict. Now we try that and there appears yet bigger conflict that it had been before. Can, indeed, the satisfaction of those fictious "needs" they ascribe us really contribute to our happiness? Is it not time to understand that no one can explain thee what is true good unless thou discoverst that thyself?
Many would take great exception to your statement that a title like an American means absolutely nothing.
Tell this to the brave US soldiers that dies fighting in the two great wars out of the great pride they had in being an American or British.
Society can only influence you when you permit them to influence you
I suggest , therefore, that you get spectacles to clarify true perceptive in the light of accepted ethics and human morals
What are these so called fictitious needs? , please name them , would you like to revert to cave dweller living, these poor folk had very few needs outside survival
I believe that what you are referring to when you are saying the 'true me' is the being.
Anyways, all of what you said are all based on perspective.
It may be certainly true for you that titles say nothing about oneself, but look at how people let these titles influence themselves.
Sure, they may seem superficial for you, but for some people it is their life.
Now, titles are often needed to convey what you want in this world (this world as in material world, the tangible world).
For example, you don't just go up to a store and expect the guy to know intuitively what you want.
Symbols and titles are needed for materialistic world.
Although, yes, materialism is a deadly thing if you cling strongly to it, but spiritualism too, if you repeatedly say that you don't need food and end up dying.
The thing is to find a balance between materialism and spiritualism; you don't want to be spiritually void, yet you don't want to deprive your body of its needs.
Now, while I agree on the fact that people are getting too attached to their titles, I wouldn't get rid of every title in the world because of it.
Now, when you deal with happiness, it is also the same deal.
To an extent, materialistic things can carry you to happiness, but those materialistic things are, well, bare necessities, such as food, water, etc.
Happiness comes from the bare necessities ALONG with the spiritual peace and an exploration of the inner self.
Again, I don't think you should go out on the street in the name of happiness.