@emergent monkey,
Sorry but that to me reads silly. If you can choose between options that you have an understanding of, then control is assured. Doesn't necessarily make it the right choice but it is control none the less. Outside of this scope, a response may be formed from progammed influences, or simply be a case of not thinking at the time.
As to your main arguement, I could say I disagree on a scientific basis, in that if Evolution is our creator, then in words no different to that a Hindu practitioner might say, you are a human because you earnt that ability and in saying that, you are the creator of your initial self.
You cannot control your influences once they have influenced you but you can deny them being an influence and that would counter the point you feel I nailed. It isn't just cut and dry, you can gain control, lose it, never have it, always be in it or any variation of these and others.