I completly agree with that view of things. This post however is not about other mothers, fathers, or children in this world, just this one. I apologize for whatever it is that you went through, but this isn't the place to vent. If you have encountered a dead beat mother, then do something about it. Me personally, I'm not viewing him as a "wallet". Once he signs over his rights he wont have to pay a cent for anything. I can (am) take care of my children on my own. I would much rather him be out of work and CARING (visiting, showing interest in his schooling, asking about his day, taking him for hair cuts, taking him to mcdonalds, playing ball with him, etc.) for him than asking for child support and him not seeing my son at all. If he doesnt keep a job then there's no support coming anyway. Just because you don't want to work doesn't mean that this child shouldn't eat.