@lovingmother,
Also, so you have some idea of what goes on - google 'cycle of domestic violence'.
And yes, find a womens shelter that can take you and your child in.
And if the laws allow it in your state, apply for a domestic violence protection order / restraining order / apprehended violence order (or whatever they call it in your state), whereby he is
not allowed to :
- go near you or near where you live
- go to where you live or work or frequent (eg where a place where you frequent is necessary, is when you attend the same church)
- contact you directly or indirectly (probably for anything except the kids)
- attempt to find where you live
Most places by now should have some similar law in place enabling this sort of thing.