@chai2,
chai2 wrote:
It reminded me of when I was dating this guy and said something about "Jewish people". He said, "It's annoying when someone calls me a Jewish person. I'm a Jew. It not so much my religion, but who I am. Call me a Jew, that's what I am"
This is a very person specific thing regarding the use of Jew, Jewish, or Jewish people (let us even say Hebrew), I believe.
Many Jews that are non-religious, I believe, prefer the "Jewish person/people" phraseology, since "Jew" historically was an epithet.
However, I believe, those that are pro-Israel, might just like the term "Jew," since it gives credence to them being a "people" with a right to a homeland.
In my mind, in NYC, many people who happen to identify with being Jewish, prefer Jewish. I hear this as the standard use by non-Jews, regardless of age.
I have heard that in some regions in the country it is acceptable by non-Jews to not us the phrase, for example, "Oh, you are a Jew?", but use the phrase "Oh, you are Jew? (the "a" is omitted.). In NYC this is considered somewhat offensive by many. Note that one would not use the article "a" for a Catholic or Protestant?
In the 1950's the attempt to be non offensive was achieved by saying of the Jewish persuasion, or the Hebrew persuasion by some.
The truth is that there is no such thing as a Jew, I believe, since there is no Jewland. Jewish just refers to a person, or people, that identify with Judaism as a religion or ethnicity. I mean like if there was something that was a "Jew," then if a Jew marries a non-Jew, would a child of the union be a half-Jew (perhaps used by some, but incorrect, I believe). The child can choose a religion, and would then be either Jewish, or not.
Also, I never heard of a Jew Cemetery. I do not even remember seeing a Jewish Cemetery, even though that must be used somewhere?. They tend, I believe, to be titled, Hebrew Cemetery.
Perhaps, when dead it is nice to wax nostalgic?