@shewolfnm,
Yeah, totally know what you mean.
Like if you say "that mexican guy other there" well, ****, that's what he is, ok?
Ok, from some conversations I've had with mexian/hispanic co-workers that I've gotten friendly with other the years, and relating it to different groups as a whole.....
Ana......We were really friendly, she was funny, caring, etc., and proudly Mexican, even though she was born right here in Austin. Once we were talking I said "Well, as an Hispanic person, what to you think blah blah blah" She said "Chai, I wish you'd call me Mexican. I'm not ""hispanic"", I'm a Mexican" Ana associates her heritage with the warmth and strong feelings about her family, Mexican traditions, her food, her religion, etc.
It reminded me of when I was dating this guy and said something about "Jewish people". He said, "It's annoying when someone calls me a Jewish person. I'm a Jew. It not so much my religion, but who I am. Call me a Jew, that's what I am"
A guy I office with now, Gabriel is throughly American. But, when he went to Scotland with his then financee, he got a real kick out of an item on a menu in a restaurant. He said there were surprisingly a lot of Italian restaurants in Scotland, and they went to one with all of his GF's relatives. On the menu, to give choices to those who didn't want Italian food, there was a "Mexican Plate.....made of 100% Mexican" He was like "hey, is this why you people got me here? I see what you're up to, you've run out of Mexicans to eat in this country, huh?"
When we've talked in general about both our heritages, he said he doesn't identify with Spain at all, since Mexicans look very different from Spainards, because of the Indian (oh, sorry, Native American) blood mixed in, what is it, the Aztecs, or the Incas, or both?
I guess it has to do with your assurance in who you are. I've heard Mexicans laugh off others comments that sound, well, really ignorant.
We hired this nurse a while back who'd just moved her from PA. She didn't last very long. She walked into the break room where 2 employees, the only ones in the room, were having a conversation in spanish. BTW, in my experience, the vast majority of the time if 2 bilingual people are having a conversation in spanish and a non spanish speaker walks in the room, they automatically switch to english out of courtesy. It's not like they're hiding something. Anyway, the 2 people didn't even have a chance to start speaking in English, because this nurse had heard them from the hallway and walked in and said "Stop speaking Mexican!!!!"
oh God, I laughed so hard at that. Mainly because the mexican who told me that story was laughing so hard.
A couple years ago I had to go to New Jersey for business, and I was talking to another person from the company, and said something about a mexican. His eyes did that squinty squinty shift shift thing, and he responded "Well, as a LATINO, I would have to say that blah blah blah."
I ain't shy, so I asked "Latino? Where're you or your family from?" He said "Puero Rico". So I reply, "oh, well the people I'm talking about are mexicans, not puerto ricans." Yeah. Growing up in New Jersey, I remember puerto rican being used as a derogatory word, when it's really really where you are from.
So, not an isolated issue.
That of course has to do with if you buy into someone's innuedos when they say the word mexican.