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need help.. child custody/support.. signing over his rights? desperate for answers PLEASE READ!

 
 
Reply Fri 5 Dec, 2008 06:33 pm
i was dating a guy for about four months and found out i was pregnant. he was barely there for my pregnancy at all. never paid for any hospital bills or appointments, and once the baby came he still has never done anything. never paid a dime on his own kid, never changed a diaper, ect.. he's only seen him a maximum of seven times (and my son is now almost 9 months). we both live in different towns... about 45 minutes away by car. i have not seen nor heard from him in over four months. he has not bothered to contact me, ask how his kid is, ect. my son has my last name.. but i was stupid at the beginning and signed the paternity papers stating that it's his biological kid. we haven't been dating for about four months now. he's a drug addict and is sleeping with a girl underage. i need help. i want child support because i need the extra money to help with my son.. but i dont want him to try and go for custody. i honestly dont think he would.. but this guy likes to ruin lives. i can imagine him trying to pull something. i just really need to know what my options are! i live in pennsylvania, so does he. what are my rights? could i get him to sign over his rights and have him still pay child support? or could i atleast get child support without him having a chance in hell to get any kind of custody or visitation?? please help. i'm so upset about this whole situation. i dont wanna lose my baby to him. my son doesn't even know him and the guy is disgusting.. lives in a bad environment. i know there is plenty of things i could say to the courts to prove him as a bad parent.. but there's no way to actually "PROVE" them. or is there? please please help. reply on here or email me at [email protected]... thanks so much.
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Rockhead
 
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Reply Fri 5 Dec, 2008 07:01 pm
@heatherography,
his rights and your payments would be tied together.

can't get money from him and deny him access to the child.

Sounds like you need to speak with an attorney...
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boomerang
 
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Reply Fri 5 Dec, 2008 07:45 pm
Was he this big a loser when you were "dating" him or did he sink in the last few months?

The state will not allow you to terminate his rights if you do not have an adoption plan in place.

If he pays child support he does have some "rights" to the child unless you can prove him an unfit parent. "Unfit" is a legal term, not a judgement call on your part.

Your child is not property. He has rights all on his own.

I don't mean to be harsh but this kind of thing is very near and dear to me. What you are doing and saying and thinking right now will have an impact on your child's entire life. Don't **** it up.
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