I was wondering how long it would take for the non-dualists to attempt to hijack this thread.
I can only speak for myself, e.p. In a moment of cognitive insight, I realized that I wanted my children to be well so that I could be well and happy.
In another instance, when a bull on my ancestral farm was pawing the ground and snorting, I told my chidren to hide behind a tree. I then picked up a stupid stick and looked the bull straight in the eye intending to hit him on the ring in his nose. I told my kids to RUN, and I stood between them and the bull. I knew in that moment that I was ready to die for my children.
I feel that the situation is crucial to the explanation for all humans.