Visiting the Chelsea drugstore

Compassion

Hmmmmm..... really?

If someone disappoints you do you learn compassion?

Thinking......

bravery (and a slightly thicker skin)

No such thing as a free lunch.

Sorry to call again, but, I keep hearing scary noises and I'm afraid, means run and do not look back ~ unless you really wanted her when you told her no, I have to get up early, good night.

Please, I need someone nice like you to look at my car, always means, hey, I got no money and I know that you fix things free sometimes cuz yer thinkin with the wrong head...

I just need this part to get it going, and I will be back tomorrow with .....

RH

People don't follow my road map. I keep learning that. They have their own to read. It's the way of the world. (Wasn't there an early play? Marlowe? Off to google.)

People don't need my fixing. They are rich jewels of complex cut without my interference. Lesson #843, constantly up for relearning.

the positive lesson IMO comes way, way after the disappointment...

when you realise how disappointed you are, that you just really can't get it the way you want it to be, no matter how hard you try, you just can't see a positive...

you realise that there is a positive tho, coz you learn to live with the disappointment - so you realise you have strength to carry on, not give up and maybe compromise for what you are trying to achieve or expect.

The positive, I think, must be when you realise you have strength to keep going, no matter how disappointed you are...

and to keep the belief that you do what you can to achieve.

Disappointment comes through the expectation of what you want to happen. I guess, expect only the best from yourself - try not to expect the same from others. You can't change people - you can only change the way you think.

Not always, but yes, I have learned compassion.

I've had others try to give me what I need, but were just incapable of it.

They hurt because they couldn't give what someone needed. I didn't want them to feel that way, and it was better just to deal with the disappointment rather than force them to continue.

absolutely....

and patience... and understanding

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Never say never.

Risk and reward. The greater the risk the greater the reward.

See the problem with a public forum is you get "ramblers"

When you really want something to work, you expect it to be a certain way, and you do your utmost to make it so, but then it doesn't work…

You learn compassion to ensure the expectations you place on others, their level of expectation is different - and if they are that important in your life - you feel for them so you're the compassion outweighs the disappointment. You learn that you can have patience for others to place your needs on an equal level - and if they are unable to do that for whatever reasons, then you learn to live with it because you find you can grow - you grow from knowing that you can move on from the disappointment - and it actually can make you feel good - not always I suppose - but when you accept the way things are, the importance of your ability to feel about how others may treat you, or take from you - what you give back to them by not being disappointed in them, makes you feel more whole.

You have to take the chance, coz if you don't take your chances in life - you aren't living it. If you don't get what you want - then you have to take the risk to keep trying, but not expecting anyone else to make it happen for you. You learn to be more brave. You learn to be patient - with yourself and others.

And if it happens again - you will have learned a lesson already, and hopefully, the next time you feel disappointed with someone, a situation - then the disappointment will be easier to deal with. And so you move on from it… and all the time you are growing.

Rambling over… may not make any sense at all.

If it's to be its up to me.

If it's meant to be, it will!

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Resilience

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Perspective

Self Identity

Acceptance

Yeah, I was thinking acceptance too.

Although, just when I think I'm gonna be disappointed I get a pleasant surprise.

Resilience. Yes.

That those who have expectations are those most likely to suffer disappointment.

These are all excellent responses and I truly thank you all.

I hope those are lessons that will come out of this.

Maybe -- just maybe -- you wanted it so much you thought you needed it.
But you didn't. Not need. Not really. What you did get, you did need. You
wish it could have been more. It almost was. But over time you found it
was enough.