This was the subject of a discussion with a friend during a long drive to a golf tournament a few years ago. I said something about the backbeat to a tune. She said, hunnnnnnnnnnnnh? A long discussion followed. O.k., so I did a bit of a monologue for a bit.
I am a backbeat person, 2/4, all the way.
She was clearly not. 1/3. That's all she knew. Good luck with those music lessons was my thought.
I don't even want to remember our discussion about the downbeat.